Well good for you OP! Though if I were you, I would take up those free pizzas :)

Thank you. And to those who thought he was talking about getting a tip later, he definitely wasn't. The cost of the food was prearranged and the service charge included in the bill.

A service charge is not exactly the same thing as tipping. You can be service charged because you have a large group and still tip your waiter. A tip is something extra for a job well done and can be as large or small as the tipper desires. A service charge is to ensure that your large group doesn't cost the server money by monopolizing their time keeping them from smaller tables, resulting in them not tipping, and then fail to leave a leave a tip themselves. As a server I can tell you that if you have a table of eight people, only six of them will ever be paying attention to you at any one time. This means that you can ask if they need anything else a dozen times, get nothing but no and then by the time you bring what was originally requested, those who weren't paying attention will suddenly remember they wanted refills and another salad. If that same table of eight splits to eight separate checks, five of them will tip a couple bucks and three of them will assume the others are tipping so why should they. So in the end that table of eight will leave you a ten dollar tip for $120 worth of food, have run you ragged sending you back and forth repeatedly for two hours for the things they could have had you get all at one time, and cause you to get low tips from the tables they wouldn't let you service. All for at best, 8 bucks an hour.

it was a joke. anyone can see that just by reading this fml. I can understand being slightly offended but by calling his manager you could potentially get him fired. everyone has moments when they say inappropriate things and I'm sure he regretted it later.

102 thanks for the tipping lecture. Like we haven't all heard that before in every single fml that involves a restaurant.

There's a time and place. Saying that to a customer(who is also a stranger) is not one of those times. You never know, the person you're telling the joke to could've been a victim before.

#102 OP is in the UK and last time I was there it was not traditional to tip the waiters. Minimum wage is closer to $10 US an hour, not a great wage, but better than what waiters get in America who have to rely on tips.

#102 tipping in europe is totally different than in the us! I'm not 100% sure about the UK but in Germany tips are often split between waiters and kitchen staff, you don't pay Taxes on tips and 5-10% is a normal amount...

102, this was not a job well done. Quite the opposite. Good for you, OP!

I have waited tables for a long time (not 20 years but yeah). That was horrible OP. We had one waiter joke with a man about his ID coming up as legit and to "don't worry, that child **** case isn't that big of a deal"(or something to that effect). If that wasn't bad enough this man was with his wife and children. He was fired immediately once the management found out. This man is no different. That is so gross!

I get really tired of folks who tell me to 'lighten up' when they are behaving offensively at my expense. And no, I will not take a joke when it is pointedly meant to offend.

#107. Rape is NEVER a joke.

Good for you, OP. That kind of behavior needs to be taken care of. If this guy wants to joke like that with his FRIENDS, that's one thing, but to a stranger while you're at work? Totally inappropriate. Also, the US is the ONLY country that pushes tipping. Other countries actually pay their employees so a tip is actually a sign of tremendous service. Here, the customer is expected to give the employee their paycheck no matter the service.

That is definitely not something to joke about. Glad you reported it Op!

As a young woman that lives in Cardiff also, I'm very curious as to which restaurant this happened at so I know to avoid in the future!

Also, if the waiter did not do a good job, why tip? Tips shouldn't be given to w waiters that didn't do a good John like in this case!

No one said that the person should tip if the waiter did not do a good job. All that was said that a "service charge" and "tip" are not generally the same thing. This waiter was obviously an ass and not deserving of a tip.

You did the right thing, OP! Good for you :)

#107 If he can get fired for making a rape joke, that means there was a rule about not making such jokes and he clearly broke it, meaning he deserves the punishment he receives. Plain and simple.

That was my first thought, that it was about a tip. If you're drunk, it's more likely the waiter/waitress will get a larger tip.

Read the follow up.

Were you there when it happened?

111, were you?

really doesn't matter how he meant it he shouldn't talk about taking advantage of anyone. it was totally inappropriate!