It IS unreasonable, though, to expect a specific answer and get pissed and offended when she doesn't get it. Again, it is selfish to believe that the happiest day of a parent's life is the day they had you. What if the OP has siblings? is one supposed to rank higher than the others? It was a selfish thing to ask. Fishing for compliments fails in two large ways. One: you usually don't get the answer you want. Two: if you do get the answer you want, it's not as genuine because you asked for it.

The OP wasn't being unreasonable. She was proud and holding her newborn child. That same child is the grandchild to the OP's mother. The new mother just wanted a positive affirmation that grandma was happy too. This is her future lineage here. There is a thing called tactfulness. Grandma's answer wasn't tactful. It wasn't the day the OP's sibilings were born or when her siblings left the house... it was when she left the house. Grandma isn't stupid, she didn't misinterpret the question. People need to feel loved. Sometimes you need to keep things to yourself and concede to another person's feelings. You will not have a happy marriage, family or life if you refuse to observe the golden rule.

OP didn't want affirmation that her mother was happy about the baby. Read the FML again. "hoping she would say the day I was born." "Grandma isn't stupid, she didn't misinterpret the question." That statement is perfect. I would have said something similar. I hate when people are trying to make me compliment them. " People need to feel loved. Sometimes you need to keep things to yourself and concede to another person's feelings. You will not have a happy marriage, family or life if you refuse to observe the golden rule." You also won't have a HEALTHY marriage, family or life if you have to depend on everybody else for validation. If everyone has to lie to you to make you happy, that's not healthy. OP needs to grow up and realize that people aren't going to say the "right things" or do what she expects them to. That's life. Deal with it. :D

The OP's anecdote is merely a moment of her life captured for us to read. No one can presume to know what happened before or after that moment. We will never know what type of people the OP or her mother are. Perhaps grandma was being mean or what she said came out wrong, I never assumed to know what she meant. It did, however, hurt her daughters feelings. People have feelings and sometimes that is frustrating. Being candid doesn't have to be synonymous with being rude. Reconciling the two is a challenge but leaves you feeling like a warm blanket fresh out of the drier. ((((awww))))

Good for you that your child's birth was the best day of your life. However that is not the case for everyone. A lot of people don't view having children as the best thing in their lives and there is nothing wrong with that. Some people might have been forced to have/keep a child. Imagine living for at least 18 years a life you never wanted because abortion wasn't an option or you were pressured into having a child. And even if having a child was one of the best things for you there is nothing wrong about being happy to finally, after all those years have your place all for yourself, having more privacy and freedom to do whatever you want to do, whenever.

We get it already, you have a child. Do you want an award for that? Contrary to your belief, there are parents out there who are not thankful to have birthed a child and prove it by abusing them, abandoning them or, most tragic of all, killing them. You can express your sympathies to the OP without resorting to insulting everyone who doesn't agree with you. If there's anything more annoying than people who are "single, have no kids, and/or are teens with no life," it's know-it-alls who thinks they acquired their MENSA membership by reproducing.

You know, I have to wonder, with all the time this individual has spent responding to the FML, does she just leave her child to play with forks and power outlets while she pretends like talking to strangers online constitutes a life?

Ive seen plenty of those during my time working radiology at a Children's hospital. Scorpio, when you're holding a little boy who's in your hospital because his mother and father broke multiple bones in his body, maybe you'll understand that there's another side. Ive seen kids that have been beaten, broken, burned, stabbed and killed. Ive had to book appointments for kids with STDs because Daddy loved them and mommy turned a blind eye. Patient care is one of the biggest reasons I never got into nursing. I don't know if I'd be able to keep my mouth shut if I was face to face with a parent like that. There are plenty of parents out there that put themselves before their kids. Also, there are even more that put a spouse/bf/lover above their children.

D'oh! *think, not *thinks I'm not a pirate, just a grammar Nazi.

@idkweird, I do see your point, and @alexisthename I never meant to come across as a know it all, far from it. My child is well raised also. Anyway, who cares. Its just an FML right?

one can only hope.