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Well... They are the most important people in his whole world.
The guy could have an open relationship with his wife.
Even if he does OP didn't know that, which isn't fair.
Also, why would someone offer up information that you could blackmail them with? Especially on a first date
Yep, the correct response to this is to say "They sound great, when can I meet them?"
You'd actually be surprised at how many men will tell you about their wife/SO on a first date—especially those you meet through Internet dating. It's usually followed by "I'm going to break up with her as soon as her birthday's over/she's done grieving for a dead relative/she finishes school, etc...." (or something similar). I'm not sure if women do the same thing to men, but this has happened to me and several friends. Or it's possible he got half way through the date and decided he didn't like OP and thought the best way to let her down was to invent a wife and kids. Either way, he sounds like a jackass.
Maybe you misunderstood him when he said date, but meant instead to have a casual meeting amongst friends. If he truly is a nice guy then I'm sure he means no harm.
Get out of there asap. A married man is not someone you want to associate with. Maybe he thought he was just being honest (they may be in an open relationship or something), but it's seems like a lot of unnecessary drama.
As others have said, he may not think of this as a date but a casual outing between friends. Or he may be in an open relationship. We'd really need a follow up to know for sure. But what I want to know is, why can't OP associate with married men? I associate with more than one married woman and it's never cost me any drama. As long as no one is immature or possessive, there is no reason to cut off all contact.
I'm married. I've seen no point to divorce as it's expensive and unnecessary at this point since I've found no one else to marry yet. At some point, I will need to make that decision. In the meantime, I desire and enjoy the company of women- not just for sex, but for the dichotomy women bring to my life. Should women run from me just because I've committed to taking care of my responsibilities while searching for a woman I can be happy with?
I should make it clear we've been separated for a long while.
^ Just get divorced, dude.
Easy for you to say. It's expensive and neither of us care to go through with it now. I'm not stopping her from dating. We get along way better now than ever.. so what business is it of yours. Point is, I'm honest with every woman I go out with about my current situation so that they don't have any surprises.
You know people like 19 who are married but have been separated for years, some over a decade are out there. Some even live in different states. They just feel no need to get a divorce. They keep the spouse and kids on their insurance and taxes. They live that way until one of them wants to remarry.
^exactly. I see no need to get a divorce. She's on my insurance. I take very good care of her and our kids. We get along. We don't need the dirt and stress of divorce. But since I do date, I feel it's best to be up front about my situation. I guess according to FMLers I should walk away from all that.
Why do people think this is okay?! If a couple has an open relationship, fine, but at least TELL the person you're involving BEFORE! If there isn't an open relationship and you do this, you don't deserve any sort of relationship, period.
Better to find out now! Sounds like he didn't really think of it as a date though, considering he brought his family up
What a ******' asshole. I'm sorry OP people suck.
Or he's poly?
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Maybe you misunderstood him when he said date, but meant instead to have a casual meeting amongst friends. If he truly is a nice guy then I'm sure he means no harm.
Probably not a date on his part as he wouldn't have told you otherwise.