By Username - 23/12/2010 10:50

Today, I asked a girl I liked what she was doing tomorrow night. She replied, "Cleaning, so nothing really." I then asked her out to dinner. She declined. FML
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Ninjafriends 1

Free time doesn't automatically mean you've got a date. There's that whole attraction thing. That's what's tripping you up.

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Scubadiver172001 0

Just because she's not busy tomorrow doesn't mean she is attracted to you OP....

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muchagente 5

you can't expect her to waste time on a boring and awkward date, when her home stays a mess all that time, can you?

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mike3775 35

Her answer the the first question should have clued you in that she was not interested in you

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Jewelofagal 2

To the contrary, her first response ("Cleaning, so nothing really"), indicates that she has no other urgent plans and may be available for a date. Had she said, "I've got to grocery shop, prepare 3 dishes, and clean house for my company that is arriving in two days", the OP would have been given a clear signal that she definitely wouldn't be available for a date that night.

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mike3775 35

Not really, because if she was interested in him, she would not have mentioned "cleaning" at all, and would have stated nothing. No woman I have ever asked out stated an answer like that unless they were not interested. Granted it may not be the same everywhere for everyone, just every time I got an answer like that(quite a few times), its always been stated in ways like that

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Jewelofagal 2

I disagree, Mike. Women don't want to say that they have no plans at all -- it makes them sound desperate. Instead, they "hedge their bets" and give a response that indicates they could have plans, but nothing firm. That way, if the guy proceeds to ask them out, they can go either way with their response depending on their at-the-moment gut reaction.

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HomeAl0ne 20

You didn't know what's going on for her. For all you know she's on her period and feeling like shit and just wants to curl up with a hot water bottle, but she isn't going to tell you that. If you are interested I'd ask her again. If she says "no" I'd say "Ok. Is that 'no, not ever' or 'no, not this time but you can ask again"?

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mike3775 35

Jewelofagal that may be true, just not for me(like I stated above) HomeAl0ne to me, a no means no. I wouldn't ask those questions because then you look desperate really. But honestly, he was told no, he should just move on and try to find someone else

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Reasonable 4

But you have to consider that she might not have known that he was going to ask for a date. I think there's a pretty high chance that they're friends or at least somewhat know each other, and maybe she thought he wanted to hang out. OP, I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like she was polite and didn't humiliate you, and there could be a million reasons for why she turned you down.

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JFox 8

Maybe she really is busy? If I'm busy, I'll usually tell people "I'm cleaning" because it's easier than saying "I'm cleaning, wrapping Christmas presents, going grocery shopping, etc etc.. " Of course, I have a boyfriend, so I'll usually see if he's busy and try to enlist some help. :P

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paras0mnia 3

It never hurts to ask, what's the worst that can happen... so you were declined, it could have gone either way. Well done for putting yourself out there and remember it's not you're loss but theirs. YDI for you're emotional instability :P

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justbigbs 6

Hey better now than later, move on

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Zombie65 0

of course she did she already told you she was busy cleaning

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Namenlos_fml 20

Ahh.. cold rejection. don't give up. the mark of a good man is a scarred ego.

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backdownbreh 0

haha. like that family guy episode last night. the guy declines meg's date because he will be in the hospital then shoots himself with a nail gun repeatedly.

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