It's not rocket science, if he tried then he likely could do it. Sounds to me that he doesn't want to try. Unless he has some disability where his fingers and tongue don't work...

Are you one of those guys who expects women to ****** from penetration alone? If you think you have "the gift" it might just be a gift for finding women who are inclined to fake orgasms. It's rare for women to be able to cum from penetration alone, most women need their partner to try- which involves stimulating the ********. This is why we need better sex ed.

#47, You're also a guy, so that's not saying much. While penetration always works for you (whatever that means) penetration alone doesn't work for most women.

@46 I'm guessing you're saying you somehow "know" your partner(s) always has/have orgasms just from penetration and nothing else. If it's the singular partner in a long-term relationship, I might be able to buy this, but sorry, no, not enough women work like that to be believable. It's like saying EVERY SINGLE girl you ever slept with was a squirter. As for being able to tell, I'm assuming you mean via involuntary muscle spasms, which--and I'm sorry to destroy the illusion here--are really easy to fake for any woman with decent control of her pelvic floor muscles. So most women who didn't give birth yesterday and aren't over 80. Trust, I used to have a lot of trouble getting off when I first started having sex, so I'm familiar with faking it.

Women may vary in terms of whether we like it fast or slow, hard or gentle, but we're consistent in the location and general shape of our clits (did you know about the internal structure? Most people don't) and we're consistent in that most of us need our clits stimulated in order to ******. Some percentage of the teenagers are going to have sex no matter what you do. What can be controlled to some extent is whether or not they do it safely. The way to reduce teen pregnancy and STIs is by giving them access to birth control and teaching them about it. They also need to be taught about consent, respect for their partner, how to recognize an abusive relationship, all the basic life skills. Where else are they going to learn these things? If they don't learn about sex from reliable sources in school or from their parents, they'll learn from ****, which is inaccurate and downright abusive a lot of the time. As far as whether or not to teach them about pleasure is concerned, you have to realize that they've all already learned how to pleasure men from the media, so teaching them about female pleasure just balances it out and makes it fair. They deserve to know how their bodies work.

#66, let me inform you and I pray for the sake of every girl you ever sleep with that you read this, you can absolutely give orgasms with zero use of your fingers or tongue. (Graphic info ahead.) You should watch more ****. You can take your dick out during sex and give clitoral stimulation with it, and it's fricking incredible. INCREDIBLE, okay? If my husband feels like he's going to get off before me, he'll do this and it only takes like 10 seconds for me to finish, then he can get the rest of his. Works perfectly every single time, and I happen to love it Don't be so draft as to think you have to use your fingers and tongue. Your penis can do more than stab and thrust. As far as teaching how to give good sex in schools? No they probably shouldn't. But you also should not go uneducated. Educate yourself and be a good partner.

Once again, this doesn't work for everyone

don't be that guy

Would you like a glass of water? You're thirsty af.

I would

Bad idea. If I were him, I would just go back to masturbating. For as long as she can hold out. The mature thing to do is talk about it, and come up with a solution that both sides are happy with.

Well, if he doesn't care about pleasing her why should she have sex with him? If she doesn't get enough enjoyment out of it, it could really just be a chore. If he won't even try to give her pleasure, she's better off doing it herself and getting actual enjoyment than just getting him off

I'm glad she got your approval. It was real touch and go there for a moment.