I'm sorry your family can't understand what a big deal everyone and media usually makes coming out. You were right being nervous and they could have been more understanding of why, especially if they have nothing against it.

Your bravery has not gone unnoticed. Good for you, OP

could've been worse

What were you expecting, a congrats party?

Now they know

Welcome to 2016, where nobody with half a brain gives a **** if you prefer penis over ****** (I know I do ;). People get bullied and disowned and hated against for people like us. Religions hate on us. Everyone hates on us. So not giving a **** seems to be the best policy. I've never been worried about others finding out who I am. (Then again I'm bisexual so I could always pretend that I'm straight. XD Those mutherfuckers will never find out.)

Were you expecting them to go crazy happy for you or something

I feel ya, OP. I'm out as bi to literally everyone but my family for the exact same church reason. I'm glad you didn't get an overtly hostile reaction, but I totally understand how the tone of their comments could be extremely hurtful. For those who didn't grow up in a fundamentalist environment, some context: dismissal of someone's identity in this fashion is a common tactic used to confuse and scare people into adhering to the fundamentalist dogma. Fundamentalists will often also refuse to acknowledge that their conduct is damaging and sometimes downright hateful, instead blaming the "victim," so to speak, for any offense taken or for "misremembering" how a conversation went. There are actually parenting books advocating this method. I wish I were kidding but I'm unfortunately not. My guess is that's the history OP had with the church, so the subtext, not the literal wording--which was still pretty rude--was the truly hurtful part.

Well do you? I probably would want a medal.

I hope you found an end to your anxiety and turmoil even if you found the response kind of idk anticlimactic.