This. Thank you.

You're welcome!

i completely agree and all the people making comments like that have no idea wat an eating disorder is like and theyre being realy hypocritical cuz i doubt theyre helping starving people over seas.

Please, help yourself to all the internets you'd like. You deserve them.

it's not that the people are jerks, it's just that the jerks are the only ones replying.

I'm really glad that this got top comment. I hope you were able to help OP out!

A fragile mind has nothing to do with logic and responsibility. Over coming a problem is hard but starting one in the first place is easy. Wasting a 'little' food maybe 1-2 meals a day for at least a year or so IS A LOT OF FOOD. Costing money for your mom and taking it away from your family on a problem that never should happen is a big deal. If you have weak emotions now days can get you almost anything. We as a society need to put a need for a strong mind. Without a solid mind we as humans are nothing. A weakness that hurts everyone is something that should be dealt with.

I love how your concern is mainly for the money that it costs the family to feed her the food that she would be eating anyway rather than the health of the OP who has a mental illness and a serious, potentially deadly disease. Kudos to you for being a good person.

be responsible for yourself? communicate BEFORE this happens? YDI. if she has FHL. simple beans

Before what happens? It's not like you can predict when you get a mental disorder. And the OP is finally being 'responsible for herself' and admitting to her mother that she does have bulimia - and gets a horrible reaction. Sometimes, people don't even realise they actually have a problem or cannot, or are to embarrassed to stop it.

How do you not know that you're making yourself purposefully throw up!!!

So if she had cancer, she should just go to the oncologist before she started having any symptoms? The OP isn't a psychic (I'm assuming!) so it would be pretty difficult for her to "communicate" and "take responsibility" in advance of her having a problem. Logic fail on your part, #36.

"Bulimia, not as visible as anorexia, is often a hidden illness. Sufferers speak of feeling guilty, ashamed and disgusted by their behaviour and take great pains to keep it a secret from those closest to them. This contributes to their feelings of despair, loneliness and depression. Combined with the physical effects of bingeing and purging, people with bulimia can become both physically and emotionally overwhelmed." Ok so now you have read that I will explain something to you. People with anorexia and bulimia see themselves as fat. Not perceive, SEE. They look into the mirror and see a fat person, instead of the skin and bones that they really are. There has been debate over whether eating disorders should be classified as psychotic or non-psychotic diseases. Would you tell a family member to be 'responsible' if they could not wake up in the mornings and go to work becayse they were depressed? Because essentially, this is what you are asking the OP to do.

take care of it when you know? yeah

Again with the whole "disgusted and ashamed" feelings that I quoted before. It's not as easy as you make it out to be you know "just tell her". For all you know, the OP could have told her mother as soon as she realised she had the disease.

some how that just screams weakness and problem to me. if you knew about it stop it? and if she was scared of her mom in the first place problem. however if she absolutely needed help becoming normal fine its just really screams weakness again. the internet has good ideas.

Bulimia and eating disorders etc are not a result of 'weakness'. They are a severe mental issue caused by problems within the brain that YOU CANNOT HELP. It can be triggered by anything. So the OP asking her mother for help "screams weakness"? What a load of bullshit. It says to me that she is strong by recognising she has a problem.

Bulimics usually aren't underweight. Not all people with eating disorders are skin and bones. That still doesn't detract from the psychological anguish an eating disorder consists of, though. Eating disorders aren't always about seeing yourself as fat, or "wanting control", either. For many people, eating disorders are an addiction. They can't cope with life, so they binge or purge or starve, which pushes aside the other feelings momentarily, until their actions catch up to them and they crash back into reality, and the only way they know of dealing with the guilt and shame and other negative emotions is to repeat the behavior.

Depends who is bulimic that you speak to I guess. It's different for everyone - but what you said is generally true. I'm probably thinking of anorexia or something else. I still maintain though that it is a severe psychological problem that people have no control over. But I guess you agree with that anyway, I don't have to point it out again.

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like OCD, the rituals of bullumics tend to release dopamine etc into their brains - happty chemicals - so they get addicted to doing them. recovering from bullumia may be like recoveering from drug addiction.

exactly its addiction, not a genetic disposition. there are risk factors but the problem has to develop. They chose to think a certian way and have it accepted into their brain. It is not all a one way chute to bulimia. fears and misconseptions should not control anybody.

they dont ******* choose to think that way. its the only way that they can see anything. they can be told something over and over but as much as theyd like to believe it, they cant. because theyre sick.

People with eating disorders generally do it to have some semblance of control over their life becuase there may be things happening that they have no control over. By the time they realise that they have started down the route of this behaviour it has usually been going on for a while. They dont suddenly sit up and say oh do you know what i dont think I will eat today and see how long I can go for. There is no decision like you were trying to make out. there is nothing that alerts them to what they are going to do before you do it because you might feel fine in yourself but you are actually not. I know what you are trying to say, that she should have tried to stop it before it got to the point where she was being sick but I can almost guarrantee you that she did not know she was going to do it til she did. Not everything can be brought back to easily discussed conversations and there might be no solid reason as to why she began. OP I really hope that what your mum said was from the initial shock and not what she actually thinks. I hope you can get thru this and get better again.

#44 It's not that she doesn't know, it's just that her mind wont let her be in peace until she does so. Eating disorders are like a force that takes over you that you just can not control.

if it is a force you cant control why can you rehab it? I understand it might be hard to get rid of it, but there are things in life that will be hard. should we congrat her for being strong and telling her mom, or should we congrat her on progress that she made? It amazes me that the brain is so versitile that people with a half of a brain can live normal lives.

#206 - You, fool, are close-minded and unable to admit to being wrong. I don't think this girl's problems should be of so much focus to you when you yourself cannot comprehend what you don't want to hear. Who the hell raised you to be such a cow?

It's not that they don't know they're throwing up, obviously. The thing is they don't view the purging as a problem; they see it as their normal way of life. Just as alcoholics or drug abusers don't see their addiction as a problem, it's the same with bulimics. It's a horrible thing to go through, and I truly hope the OP gets the help needed. Good luck :)

Please stop breathing.

wtf??? what is wrong with you??? She has a DISORDER!!!! she is not bulimic out of spite for the starving africans!!!

what is wrong with you? She didn't become bulimic just to watch the Africans suffer! If thats how you think, i'd hate to see how you'd react to someone having cancer. You and everyone else commenting like this should think about what your saying, and maybe do a little more research on bulimia.

oops, thought it didn't go the first time. Sorry!

You're a waste of oxygen 19

Love you too 25.

30 FTW pointless anger. . .

#25, I completely agree with you. Been there, done that, probably relapsing soon.

Imawhalerider can honestly go suck off a dead gorilla. You say "pointless anger" when You KNOW EXACTLY WHY people are angry.

well they can either be angry at god or themselves. Lets vent it on other people?

On the same token, you could probably be doing something productive to benefit the world, and yet here you sit talking shit to the OP and poking and prodding at a sensitive topic that you DO NOT understand. Like a winner.

I think 211 doesn't understand the difference between not understanding and not caring.

#146 - Stay strong, stay healthy. You can do it!

Hey 277. If the dumb ass didn't care, she wouldn't be on this post 17,000 times bitching and moaning about starving kids and bulimics who need to die and whatnot. K? Take it outside, Kid.

17000 times? And its 227.