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By ironwoman23 - 28/03/2015 00:23 - United States - East Alton

Today, I discovered that when my mom can't sleep, she comes into my room and reads my text messages. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 098
You deserved it 3 276

ironwoman23 tells us more.

I do have a password! She makes me give it to her. Now I know why.. And to those asking I found out by waking up to her next to me on my phone, then quickly running out of my room

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I hope you had a long talk...Talk about invasion of privacy.

Sounds like you two need to have a serious talk about privacy. and it might be a good idea to put a password on your phone for in the future

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So many people are saying that if the OP is a minor then the parents have a right to go through her text messages. Sure, but only if that's the agreement they came to when OP's parents gave her the phone. And the post makes it pretty clear that the mom wasn't reading to make sure her kid was safe, if that were the case she wouldn't do it at night when she can't sleep and then literally run from her child when caught. She obviously knows what she was doing was wrong.

You know you live under her roof more then likely she pays your phone bill if you have to give her your password. Nothing wrong hear that I can see. It could be worse she could just not buy you a phone.

Attacksloth 33

When I was younger and lived with my parents, they said from the second I expressed interest in buying a cell phone that I'd be paying for it myself. Also, I think we're overlooking the fact that snooping is a bad habit, even if the mother pays the bills. It's that meddling mentality that causes children to avoid being up front and honest with their parents. In all honesty, OP, if you're concerned about privacy breaches, you should talk to your mother (or, if applicable) your father. Work something out with her, set boundaries, or at the very least call her out on it and tell her you don't appreciate it.

The way I look at is that if I kid has a phone then yes she shouldn't snoop. But on the same hand if the kid is a minor then the phone isn't there's to begain with and the parents have all rights to look at it

Attacksloth 33

Okay, but we're talking personal, intellectual, and emotional freedom here, not material freedom. The physical phone might belong to the parents, but that doesn't mean the contents of the child's text messages do. Just to be clear, I think a bit of surveillance can go a long way, but not in this way. Example: curfews, calling regularly, keeping parents updated about friends, and parents maintaining contact with the parents of the child's friends. What we have here though is covert privacy infringement, where the mother had no intention of informing her child that she was snooping around. That is not a healthy way to build a trusting two-way relationship with a kid.

r_u_siri 9

how did you even find that out

justsayin91 10

actually. a 12 year old shouldn't have a cell phone. and a 16 year old does have a right to privacy, though they shouldn't have a phone either if they aren't paying for it. unless there is reason to suspect there is a problem, no parent should be going through their child's phones.

your texts are that boring that reading them helps her sleep? :p

does your phone have a pasword setting? problem solved

Sleep with you phone underneath you or next to you so that she can't get it without her waking you up