Not the point. Not having a pass lock on your phone does not entitle everyone to search through it.

You gave her your password and didn't expect her to use it? wtf? YDI

Wow you replied quite quickly but change the password and don't give it to her? She can't necessarily force you to

Right she can't force you to give it to her. She can then take your phone and or just simply suspend your service. You're screwed until you get your own contract.

You're entitled to your privacy, OP. She can't force you to do that. Change it and don't give it to her. Tell her that you're allowed to have things private.

if ur a teen then ur not entitled to privacy. if ur in ur 20s still livin at home then u have an argument...maybe this is a sign u shld move out

#55, that might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Everyone is entitled to privacy.

#37 My mom used to make me give her my password or she'd take my phone...

A teen under the age of 16 isn't entitled to privacy. That is something you earn by being trustworthy. Maybe OP is into some shady stuff. Maybe she is 15 and has a 25 year old man sending her dick pics. You never know. Or maybe OP is 23 and living at home while in college. In that case, hell yeah set a password and don't tell her the combination. Every situation is different.

It doesn't matter what age OP is, even if the mom has legitimate reasons for going through the phone, she needs to do it IN FRONT OF OP. Sneaking around, not letting her know is just breaking the trust OP has in her, and OP obviously thought the mom wouldn't use the password because she is suprised. What would be more dangerous for an underaged kid: doing something stupid with your phone or losing trust in your parents and thus trying to hide EVERYTHING. Including stuff you would normally come for advice for to your parents. I know dangerous stuff can happen with your phone, but now you have a teenager that wouldn't even come home talking if she received naked picture's without asking or others, trust is much more valueble for the safety of your kid then being able to control them.

Two possible solutions: 1. Give her a fake password 2. Give her your real one, then quickly change it. It's not right that she reads your texts without your permission. My mom does the same thing to me, but right in front of my face. Parents can be rude. You just gotta outsmart them.

#63, I completely agree. Parents should be more understanding of privacy. I had a friend who had a girl strip on live cam in front of him and another friend, but he didn't believe in people doing sexual things to/with each other unless they were undeniably in love. He talked to his parents for advice. If that happened to me, I'd be too scared to talk to my parents about it, as they would probably take my computer away.

My parents wouldn't let me lock my phone, and would read my texts. They'd also go through my Facebook and email chats (I had to give them all my passwords or else I was grounded indefinitely and I couldn't work, but became my mom and dad's servant).

Thing is 77, you aren't the phone owner. Your parents own the phone and they let you use it. They can do whatever they want with it.

Your mom is crazy, OP. You need to not give her the password anymore and don't let her control you. That's how you end up a 30 year old still living at home, like most of the men I've dated.

Op, how old are you? Are you a bit rebellious? Do you lie to your parents? I feel like these questions make a big difference to the FML. With that said, even if I did feel your mom has a right to check your phone, I think she should talk to you about it and let you know she is going to look at it. The fact that she's sneaking in to check it in the night is a bit creepy and weird. Try and talk to her about it. Maybe tell her what you've been texting to your friends about, what you've been looking up online, etc, and maybe she won't feel the need to actually check. Good luck op.

Maybe this is a sign that #55 "shld" buy a vowel /:

Give her the wrong password. Just keep giving her wrong passwords. Every time she asks give her a different one. She'll get frustrated and give up eventually

As much as it sucks, and it does, but if your parents are the one paying the phone bill, they have the right to ask you to follow their rules. While I understand privacy, you are still dependant upon them to pay for your ability to have a phone, if they are paying. I must agree, if you want total privacy, get your own phone plan. Or pay as you go with no contract.

Everyone's suggesting you don't give them the password. Just delete that shit. Oh, I'm done with my current conversation? Okay, delete. Oh, I'm going to bed and know my mom reads my messages at night? Okay, delete.

Change the password and give her a fake one.

Change your password. If she asks for your new password tell her no, she doesn't deserve to know your password because she invaded your privacy by sneaking in your room to read your texts, and presumably hasn't apologised for doing that. She needs a lesson in privacy, what an absolute bitch.

My mom is very controlling and used to go through my phone all the time! she would make me give her the password or else I'd have my phone taken (even though my dad pays for the phone and they are seperate do) I've moved out and now live with my dad and I am also pregnant, when i come to visit I'll sit my phone down and then later catch her trying to get into it if I use the restroom. Maybe it's just a control thing, sometimes she did it to figure out things going on in my personal life. It was very invasive but I had no choice.

Just use something like kik to text people, something you can log out of every time and something she won't suspect. She'll probably just look in text messages and that's it

149, you're 16 and pregnant. If I were your mom, I'd have been doing everything I could to try to prevent that situation too! I hope everything goes well but man, kids shouldn't have kids.

wow that's kinda ****** up.

it's obvious most of these commenters grew up without strict parents.. OP I would have to do the same. but she would look through my phone in front of me. FYL. P.S. don't listen to these idiots. .if you have nothing to hide then give your mother, who birthed you and raised you and spent money and will continue to do so on you, the right to know your password. it's respectful and is UNDERSTANDABLE since she is paying for your service and mostlikely bought the phone. but her snooping is wrong. talk to her about how it's not cool that she sneak looks through your phone.

I'm pretty sure 37's comment killed a few of my brain cells.

OPEYES you need to "grow a backbone" because you can't be forced to give her your password and its very disrespectful and you need to fight for what you believe in!

Dude, my parents make me give them all my passwords. If I don't I get yelled at, grounded and ALL my electronics taken away. Some of us don't have a choice.

Actually #166 you do have a choice. Get a job and pay for your own phone. That way, your parents have no right to demand your passwords.

It doesn't matter it a minor is paying for something themselves, their guardian still has a right to look through it.

I tried getting my own phone and paying for it... After we realized she could track me on it, I had to give my mom the password. And I couldn't give her the wrong password, or I would be grounded. I essentially pay for my parents to track me, and even at 18 I have to give them the password, or attempt to be a full time college student paying for EVERYTHING since none of my friends live close enough to have a roommate help split rent.

What is the name of that app? I've never heard of it?

CM Security for Androids

I was actually talking about an app called lockwatch...which is also on android but i guess CM security works too

Thanks, I was hoping I can get it on apple for my snooping brother but, oh well.