#32 I second your opinion. Especially since the OP clearly wasn't asking for it. A lot of us are SUPER shy and need someone else to make the first move. He (the duchebag who did this to the OP) should've been clear and upfront that it was a one time deal so that the OP didn't get hurt! He was only thinking of himself, and I hope the OP is over their crush! And OF COURSE we're going to brag to our friends when something we wanted to happen finally happens. Who wouldn't wanna tell their friends that they FINALLY hooked up with their longterm crush!?

Based on how the fml is worded, i assume no discussion of feelings happened prior to the sexual activity. Can't blame it solely on the guy becuase she wanted to have sex with him and hope that they would be dating afterwards. The only blame he gets is for asking for nudes after saying they wont be having sex anymore.

Why would you assume suddenly ******* WASNT a one time deal? I'm sorry, but unless he took her on a date or led her on she had no reason to think differently. He was a douche for asking for nudes after saying it was a one time deal, but unless one of them said they didn't just want a one time thing there's not really something to complain about. I'm a shy girl who has trouble sharing her feelings, but that's no excuse. People aren't ******* mind readers, stop crying when you won't do shit. If you really want someone, you NEED to get the confidence up to tell them. It's hard, but unless you try you have no right to complain. And yeah, it's exciting to hookup with a crush but it's selfish to spread it around. If he was looking for something more that could've ended it right there. Not everyone is happy to share something so personal with everyone and it's extremely disrespectful to do so if they don't want it spread around. A simple question to them and they will tell you if they are fine with it or not. If a woman slept with someone and the man bragged to his buddies and she complained, I feel like a lot of people would call him disrespectful or a douche. I'm sorry he asked for nudes but the rest I don't see him as being a douche for with the current info.

I hate it when people bring up bs like "you're not perfect so you can't judge!" Simon Cowell can't sing but he's the nastiest judge of them all. She deserved most of this other than the nudes, you can't expect a long term relationship from a hookup!

@32 You're doing the same thing to #19 that you accused them of doing to the Op. Besides, that's what this website is for. If you don't want someone to pass judgement on you, stay away from FML.

@34 It's not anyone else's responsibility to protect your feelings. If you get hurt because someone you hooked up with doesn't want anything more than that, it's on you that your feelings got hurt.

Perfect.

If he's been a long time crush, I think she was already emotionally invested and she did get further involved when she had sex with him.

And had they started dating, and then became a couple she'd have even been more involved and emotionally invested, and yet even more so had they gotten married and had children. There are deeper levels of involvement and emotionally investment than having sex with a crush.