Intimacy: Today, I finally told my fiancé about the crippling sexual abuse...

By Jackie - 18/09/2009 01:36 - United States

Today, I finally told my fiancé about the crippling sexual abuse I suffered through as a child. He immediately broke off the wedding. His reason? He can't marry someone who isn't "pure". FML

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You deserved it 4 897

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By Andrew - 31/10/2011 04:04 - United States

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Intoxicunt 5

Friday 18 September 2009 9:14

You won with that deal, not having to put up with him for the rest of your life.

BAMFCoupleBandC 0

Friday 18 September 2009 9:17

Who the hell is voting, 'you deserved it'? What kind of people are you?

Comments

cmac86 23

Friday 18 September 2009 9:50

you didn't tell him this before hand?

ilg4evr 0

Friday 18 September 2009 9:53

Trust me, I said something to that effect already, but people have argued it, saying that it's not any of his business. Even though it was her soon-to-be husband. Oh well, I never said the FML wasn't terrible. She's better off without him anyway

Intoxicunt 5

Friday 18 September 2009 10:03

She probably felt like she was being a really good considerate person (and rightly so) for telling him before the marriage. She worked up a lot of courage to do that, no doubt. People generally don't say, "Hi, nice to meet you! My name is ____ and I was sexually abused!"

LilaBear 1

Friday 18 September 2009 10:27

It's not exactly something you go around telling everybody. And some people go through a lot of boyfriends... would you really disclose that kind of abuse to every boyfriend?? It's not like she waited until after they were married before telling him.

DameGreyWulf 0

Friday 18 September 2009 9:55

Watch as he shows up on the news as a victim of a brutal rape and kill.

Illumi113 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:07

This is why religious assholes who go on and on about "purity", "righteousness", and "holiness" are complete morons.

waterynuggets 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:08

Exactly.

LilaBear 1

Friday 18 September 2009 10:19

I'm one of those "religious assholes" who think purity is important, but you can't fault somebody who's had sexual abuse forced onto them!! I think her ex was a complete moron. As if she could help it? You're the asshole for not even understanding the "religious" point of view and then making stupid uninformed generalisations.

exoskeletal 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:08

I don't think the sorries you've received aren't nearly enough. I'll add mine. Sorry. He gives men a bad name, don't give in to this kind of shit ever. You never deserved to be abused. No-one does. The first kind of abuse is made worse by this one. Being rejected and told you're not worthy, trying to build on the trust you'll need during a marriage only to thrown away. It's all abuse. I hope you rise above it. And I'm not just going to say that without this link: http://www.plentyoffish.com/

Lozzie 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:08

Oh I'm so sorry. The only silver lining from this is that you found out before you married the ********. What an asshole.

bugmenotmofo 34

Friday 18 September 2009 10:09

Feel so sorry for you, Jackie. What happened is not your fault and it's the utmost injustice that your fiancé let you down because of that. An unequivocal sign of the poorness of his mind and soul. Be happy that you're no longer engaged to that pathetic, deadlocked soul. I wish for him to be abused in his behind by a horse. Guess, that's the only thing that could change his mind.

bunnyish 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:10

If he was willing to end the wedding because of something as stupid as being "pure", and was such an insensitive dick about a traumatic and horrible experience in your life-that you didn't choose- YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM! There is someone out there who will understand and love you no matter what.

LilaBear 1

Friday 18 September 2009 10:16

What a bastard. Good that you found out he's a total loser now rather than after the wedding.

rm1610 0

Friday 18 September 2009 10:22

at least you found out what a moron your ex-fiance is!!if he cant deal with it and be considerate,,you are so much better off without him!..... i am so sorry you had to deal with abuse when you were younger and dont listen to that idiot ex-fiance of yours...you are pure because you didn't do anything wrong....and i really hope you find someone great,who supports you no matter what.:)