By Anonymous - 13/12/2009 07:22 - United States
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I'm the OP. I originally moved away from him to finish my degree/get my Masters. We've been on and off because he runs private security for the government and spends the majority of his time overseas. I signed a 13 month lease because I wanted to live in a house and I have two big dogs. He was all for me moving out here. Long story short, IMO: the situation blows, we're over and done with, and I have an awesome new house/job in Vegas.
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YDI for thinking your on-again / off-again / on / off / whatever / boyfriend had it in him to commit, but FYL for finding out you were being cheated on.
The on off situation should have alert you not to move. If you make such a big step you have to be 100% sure things will work out. Still, it sucks what happened, FYL.
This is why you should never change your life that drastically for a man. Or ever rely on the man to support you. Honestly, women these days don't know how to be both in a relationship and independant at the same time. Prince Charming doesn't exist, men are only human and you can't rely on them for your happily ever after. You have to be responsible for your own happy ending. It's possible, ladies! Also applies with the genders switched around, fyi.
You know what...I hear "you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" all the time but it is not true, loving others is what makes us happy. Being in a serious committed relationship is what human beings are destined for. Of course there are exceptions to the rule but the majority of the population want to be in a stable relationship with a lifelong companion. Since I started dating my boyfriend I have never been happier. We are each other's support system, we rely on each other, and know the other one will always be there. Honestly what could be better than always having the one person that no matter what will be there to support you and express their love for you--with words and actions. That said, on-again/off-again relationships never work out in the long run. When true love is involved BOTH people can't live without the other. You pull through all the bad times together. There is no off and on switch with relationships. The OP shouldn't have tried to make it work with this guy. She probably had trust issues to begin with and wanted to move out there to keep an eye on him. If a guy gives you a reason to distrust him or if he is dishonest in any way...it's extremely difficult to rebuild that trust and if he's broken up with you numerous times than he has broken your trust on so many levels that it was probably too broken to fix. The right guy won't so much as flirt with another woman. It actually is possible to find YOUR Prince Charming. Of course we are all human--no one can be perfect 100% of the time, but it is possible to find your perfect fit. Make it someone who treats you great everyday. PLEASE don't take him back. Believe me you deserve better. He will never love you like you deserve. NEVER. And you will never be able to trust him again. It's broken move on. Break your lease. Go home. Never call him again.
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jess_00
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YDI, why would you move across the country for someone you aren't even serious with??
AndreaHatesYou1
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YDI. If your relationship is that rocky, you have to expect that kind of shit. Spending that much money to be close to a guy you constantly fight with is idiotic. And from the sounds of it, it's nowhere you want to live. So your life sucks, but it's your own damn fault. :)
RoadGoesOn4Ever
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I'm the OP. I originally moved away from him to finish my degree/get my Masters. We've been on and off because he runs private security for the government and spends the majority of his time overseas. I signed a 13 month lease because I wanted to live in a house and I have two big dogs. He was all for me moving out here. Long story short, IMO: the situation blows, we're over and done with, and I have an awesome new house/job in Vegas.
Welcome to Las Vegas, it's an interesting town to work and live in. Been here about 5 years from the Midwest, big change. Hopefully you meet a great man out here! :)
I hope you have a nice time here in Vegas, it can be fun at times. :)
martic835
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I'm so glad you moved on with your life! Congratz on the new house. I hear it's nice in Vegas.
TheMischiefMaker
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YDI it for moving across the country to be with an ON-AGIN OFF-AGAIN boyfriend. hell, you deserve it for being in an on-again, off-again relationship at all.
Sux for the both of you, but if he has been on and off for five years, then ur just being desperate. Did you even talk to him about it before you signed this lease?
@perdix: That was one of the most epic things I've read in a while.
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never move in with your on again/ off again boyfriend! It is a disaster waiting to happen!
kinda of a stupid thing, the move closer to a guy whose on-again/off-again. I'm guessing your desperate, or you don't know your self worth.