By juno_op - 11/02/2013 18:17 - United Kingdom - Birmingham
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Hiii, I'm the OP. thanks for all the lovely comments, although there's a few that aren't very nice. I'm 24 btw, not 16, and I did use birth control, but you do know it's only 99% safe, right? These things can sadly happen. And we broke up because he was going.
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If you have the means, move to Japan! Kids get two parents and two languages. It's a win win.
Aw just tell him its his, get back together, and convince him to move back!....
Why would they stay together for the sake of the baby? It sounds harsh, but they obviously had issues that they couldn't work out.
I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say you know he's the father because you're not ***** and have only had him as a partner for some time. That being said, you can always get that child support long distance.
vadaaa
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For everyone saying that they should get back together: that isn't always the best choice. It is better to raise a child as two separate parents than to raise a child in an emotionally unstable home. If the parents are together but are not compatible they will definitely fight, and putting a child under that kind of stress is a selfish thing to do.
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Well, I at least hope your username doesn't mean you're 16.
KiddNYC1O
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Blame it on MTV.
Don't worry, he's probably banging many Japanese girls now.
Sometimes a chance to be a parent without interference from a bitter ex is a blessing in disguise, OP. If the baby doesn't mean enough to him that he moves back when you tell him, then you may be better off this way. Hard times ahead but lots of joy, too. Good luck.
perdix
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I'll bet you have a yen for child support! You should have thought about that before you let him pound you.
And you didn't birth control why? Obviously you weren't planning on having sex to have a baby, so you should have taken precautions. Also, why did he move to Japan? Is it because you guys broke up? Or did you break up because he was moving to Japan? Either way, YDI for not using protection.
For all you know they might have been using birth control. It's not 100% guaranteed to work... everyone knows that, surely.
Hiii, I'm the OP. thanks for all the lovely comments, although there's a few that aren't very nice. I'm 24 btw, not 16, and I did use birth control, but you do know it's only 99% safe, right? These things can sadly happen. And we broke up because he was going.
Hell no, everyone knows you're automatically an irresponsible leech if you become a single parent. Right?
Hmm... If I didn't know any better, I'd swear that is sarcastic...
Whoa, what the **** is with the downvote spree here?
People didn't know better about your comment.
You can be intimate in a relationship even if you don't think it will last. It sounds like OP took the proper precautions.
I got pregnant on birth control too so I understand.
Sadly as in bringing a new human into the world? Your own flesh and blood?
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Some how he figured it out before you did and he got the heck out of dodge!
I hope for your baby's sake that you two broke up on good terms, and that it wasn't a really rough split. If you choose to have your baby your ex can still help you provide for him/her, it just won't be as simple since he's in another country. Good luck, OP. Definitely a tough situation.