By semokco - 14/05/2015 18:59 - United States - Seminole

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Today, I found out my wife confided in a coworker that she wants to sleep with him, because our marriage is loveless and sexless. News to me. FML
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Howdy! Op here. So nice of all of you that assume that I'm not doing my part. Let me say: I am. Our marriage is not sexless, I do express and have expressed my love in creative and whole ways. Our marriage is not "sexless"- there is a possible pregnancy, ATM.

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Give her the news of a marriage-less relationship.

That is so messed up on many levels. I am so sorry OP! I would say try counseling if you desire to, but I know from experience that it's always easier said than done to make a spouse work on marriage; especially when it sounds like she's already moving on. :(

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I am sorry OP. There is no excuse for cheating. The people making this to be your fault are just as bad as she is. If there was a problem and she wasn't happy, she should have come to you so you could work on it together. The fact that she did this instead says she no longer respects you or your marriage. I hope things get better for you whatever you decide is the next step for you.

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And here's one of my favorite comments for this FMI ! I mean, for real ? Do the other people posting comments have no heart to not at least guess how shitty this situation feels like for OP ?

Yes, let's convince OP to make love to a woman who betrayed him and violated their marriage contract.

Do you agree that your marriage is loveless and sexless? Time to ask this question to yourself and start talking to your wife

Maurey time! Seriously though, that blows man. I know I'd be devastated if my husband ever did/said that. Time for a serious talk with the woman.

Howdy! Op here. So nice of all of you that assume that I'm not doing my part. Let me say: I am. Our marriage is not sexless, I do express and have expressed my love in creative and whole ways. Our marriage is not "sexless"- there is a possible pregnancy, ATM.

I truly hope you find someone better. She doesn't deserve you. I'm sorry OP.

I will say again that I hope things get better for you. It is very easy for others to suggest what you should do next, but truthfully only you can decide what is best for you.I wish you happiness.

man that's a hard one but all I'm saying is that if you do all of that and express yourself, have a sex life.. And she still wants to cheat on you do you really want to keep going down that road and possibly bring a baby into this.?

Shit op get a DNA check to be certain. It's a sad thing but only you and possibly the wifey can decide what needs to be done right now . Good luck .

I hope for your sake there isnt a pregnancy. Divorce is so much easier without kids involved. Emotionally and monetary. I say that because to me, that is a divorceable offense.

I wish you luck and a happier life, OP. As one person who was cheated on to another, there is someone else out there much better and more deserving of your love.

I'm so sorry about her OP. I hope you can work through this :) And screw her for even thinking about cheating on you.

I wish there were more men like you in the world. I just broke off an engagement because the opposite part was doing the same your wife did and I was doing the same you do. Sounds like my ex fiancé and your wife deserve each other.

So sorry to hear that! But your words were more than just advice, they expressed an appreciation for effort and care. That means a lot to me, as I am distraught, and currently wondering "How can I possibly be happy again?"

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maybe she is wanting something more than the standard you climb on top and go until you're done then you fall asleep. she may not even consider that sex and most women like a man to show his love through actions do the dishes, she will love you then!

Maybe you shouldn't assume that's what's going on. The specifics aren't our business. I'm pretty sure true love goes a little more beyond doing the dishes.

Time to step it up a bit if possible...but it seems a little too late now though

I would leave her if she's already looking else where ! And that sucks sorry