By Anonymous - 12/01/2011 13:14 - United Kingdom

Today, I found out that my Mum has spent the money she's been saving for my wedding on moving house. She called saving for a wedding for me a 'pointless cause' as it's probably never going to happen now. I'm only 22. FML
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Michyxo 14

Well... You're 22 and seemingly not in a meaningful relationship? If you're going to be way older when you get married (30+), it seems reasonable to assume you'll pay for it yourself.

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bluefairy_fml 24

It was bitchy of your mother to assume that you'll never get married just because you're single at 22. But it was even bitchier of you to assume that your mother's life savings are meant to be spent on your wedding party: 1. it's your wedding, not your mother's, so YOU should pay for it 2. a house is more important than a wedding; a wedding lasts one day, while a house can last a lifetime 3. why on earth would you spend for a wedding the equivalent of a house?! unless you're tacky and you want something huge and ultra-expensive only for the sake of impressing a gazillion guests, you can have a wonderful private wedding according to your financial means. if you want to spend your life savings on a party, instead of using them for something actually useful on the long run, like a house, then you are not mature enough to get married in the first place.

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macskapingvin 0

When I'm married, it'll be me, her, and a priest in the middle of a field. Then we'll build a house in the field!

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Seanie 0

she said she spent the money she was "saving for her wedding". she also said that she spent the money on moving...not on the house itself. furthermore, the fml as I understand it, has more to do the her mom told her that saving was basically a lost cause. the real tragedy is the amount of time you spent organizing your gripes into a numbered list.

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bluefairy_fml 24

#35, maybe I've got CDO. That's obsessive-compulsive disorder, but in alphabetic order, as it should be :P

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ninjasaurous 0

My grandma got married when she was 15. My grandparents were married for 63 years until my grandpa died.

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pennies_lane 6

I think we're all missing the real FML here.....that OP's mum thinks she is a (probably ugly) loser that nobody in their right mind would want to marry. instead we've been focussing on the money that she won't be getting.....because she wont get married.....coz she's a loser.....and probably ugly :D

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nerdsgetmehot 22

While it does seriously suck that your mom called you a lost cause and spent your wedding money, I don't know many any who have had parents save up money for their child's wedding before there's a significant other in the picture. If I ever get married, I know for sure that neither of my parents will be contributing monetarily.

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perdix 29

If you're not hot at 22, it's pretty unlikely that you'll get any hotter as you get older. It's possible, but your mom is a wise gambler. She also figures that the desperate loser who lowers his standards to a point where you are acceptable won't be worthy of a big wedding.

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Feverrotes 15

First time I actually agree with perdix's comment. I could not have said it any better myself.

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RX_Paul 0

It was nice of your mom to save up for your wedding, but a house is more important so the money had to go to that. Deal with it. I always put money to the side for fun, but sometimes life gets in the way and I have to use that money for more important things. It's a part of life. Put your big girl panties on and rake control of your life and stop expecting others to take care of you.

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jibz 6

Op, you make me sick. Your mom was generous enough to feed you, put a roof over your head and clothes on your back for 22 years, and you're complaining that she spent her OWN money? Grow the **** up, OP, because you can't continue to rely on your parents to pay your cheap ass through life. I might have sympathy for you if the wedding was already being planned, but this FML just screams to me that you're a selfless bitch. YDI

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SmallTownCutie 0

I think your comment was rude, ignorant and bitchy. She could pay for it, and now will someday, but she was counting on her mom helping out, and is now disappointed. Not to hard, and most would be disappointed if they thought their future wedding would be payed for, then find out it won't be. Not tragic, but disappointing. She wasn't expecting her mom to do anything, but her mom obviously said she was helping her save, then said she was a lost cause. Not too hard to comprehend.

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PrincessNothing 0

Wow, talk about unnecessary. When your parents tell you, "I'm saving this money for you to get married!" you tend to get very excited. Then for her mother to turn around and tell her, "Well because you're a lost cause I used that money somewhere else." is like the biggest slap in the face she could get at this point, because yes, her mother did tell her that her getting married was a lost cause. It isn't ABOUT the money. It's about what her mother said.

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Flutist 3

I agree. Now-a-days you can abort the kid. If you don't want the cost of a kid give it up for adoption to people who want one and can afford it. My father paid for my sister's wedding and if I ever get married he agreed to do the same. HE has the money and there is nothing wrong with investing in your kids future. Now, I am sure Op would have been disappointed if her mother said, "Hey I have to move and I have no other money but what I saved for your wedding. I am sorry I have to use it." Then, if Op complained it would be obvious that she is a spoilt brat. But the fact that mother said, "Hey Ugly, you're never getting married so I spent your wedding fund" is what the FML is about. You would support her if it was "My mother spent my college fund on weed/moving/hookers because she said I was dumb." It is the fact that the mother called her daughter's dreams stupid, spent the money then told her daughter she was too ugly for any man to ever want. That is the FML.

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Listerboo 2

I don't know what country you're from, but feeding, clothing and sheltering a child you bore is not generosity. Believe it or not, it's the parents' legal obligation until the child turns 18. While a child should be grateful for heroic sacrifices parents made and any extras they've provided along the way, a child should not fall on her knees in gratitude that her parents provided the bare necessities to keep her alive.

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tom_es 3

Learn that nobody owns you anything. You should pay for your own wedding.

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ancora 1

Although it wasn't nice of your mother to say out loud that she didn't think you'd ever get married, I have trouble imagining a wedding to be a worthwhile investment. People with small, inexpensive weddings can be just as happy (or more so, because they don't have the burden of debt) as those with huge, elaborate ones. And at least she gave ample warning so you can save up for your wedding yourself.

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