Yes, I dislike when people complain about the mere fact that so many people like them. Oh, the struggle of being viewed as attainable by so many! How ever will you choose the right person?

Well, depending on the circumstances, it can be annoying. When I was getting divorced, I had 5 different men pursuing me. 1 had a girlfriend and 3 of them were married. Yes, only 1 out of the 5 was actually single. I'll admit that on the one hand, it was a bit flattering to be desired by so many, particularly when my heart had just been broken, but on the other hand I found it insulting that they thought I was of such poor character that I would entertain dating a married man, especially since I was divorcing my husband for having a girlfriend behind my back. Really, they're lucky I didn't know any of their wives or the one guy's girlfriend, because I would have snitched on them given the opportunity.

Although I'd like to add that this doesn't apply to OP. These men who admire her are her friends, and she should be considerate of their feelings, even if she doesn't reciprocate them.

tl; dr

She got what she asked for. End of story.

She's not getting YDI's for turning down a guy, she's getting them because of her total lack of respect for his feelings. Posting it on facebook was an incredibly disrespectful, petty and egotistical thing to do. There's no reason to post something like that on the internet for all her friends (including the guy she just turned down) to see. With so many people on here voicing their disappointment in her attitude and behaviour she might just learn from this experience. She's not being attacked so there's no need to go on the defensive.

I clicked YDI because her FML is basically her own actions coming back to her. She publicly stated she had no romantic feelings towards her friend and then complained when her crush did the same thing to her. In fact, the crush is nowhere near as disrespectful as she is because she KNEW her friend liked her, whereas her crush might not have known she liked him. She obviously knows making such things public is hurtful, but she only saw it as bad when it happened to her.

You don't take throwing someone in the friendzone lightly, eh? Well how about when OP did it? Blatantly. Over the Internet. Where everyone could see and someone people probably knew who she was talking about. Do you take that lightly? Because the rest of us don't, and that's why she deserves it.

She certainly didn't have to post about it online (I understand venting, but it was still a bit of a dick move), but in no way does she have any obligation to date a guy if she doesn't want to JUST because he likes her. God, I've gotten so sick of this stupid "friendzone"crap. It's right up there with "nice guy syndrome." It's your fault, Friends. I love you, but you popularized such a godawful term!

She isn't a bitch for venting, she is a bitch for doing it publicly....

So what do you bring to the friendship table, 33? I've had several wonderful women friends who were genuinely concerned about my welfare, introduced me to their friends, brought food over when I was sick - you know all the caring things that friends do. I've also known women who needed attention from men but didn't want to recipricate and enjoyed the feeling of power they held over a man who really liked them.

Take "what you got"? What the heck kinda of shoddy advice is this? Settle for someone you don't like? Why? Cuz he's already there and faked being her friend in the hopes that someday she'd "finally see just how great and NICE" he is? Lol!!! Let me guess. You're a guy who is currently faking being a true friend to several girls who you think should (and secretly hope that they actually do) give you a "chance." How about this: To OP. Go for what you want! To 40. Stop faking being a "nice guy." Stop faking being a friend. Be yourself, be decent to others and if you dig someone tell them. If they don't dig you back, that's their prerogative. Move on!

40 - Taking "what you've got" is only going to end up badly