By karmaplz - 23/02/2011 14:26 - United States
karmaplz tells us more.
I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!
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I would have said bad things about him. very bad things!
the truth is always best. :)
fyl, but good for you for not being vindictive!
yeeeaa... you should've said bad things about him
YDI. Because of your oh so good conscience to not speak bad things about someone, you let someone who didn't deserve to be hired as a policeman be hired as a policeman. Good job.
who said he didn't deserve to be a policeman? two people tried to be in a relationship and it didn't work. that has nothing to do with the exes career..
YDI for not telling it how it is. Way to trash the last of your dignity helping a dbag. Being honorable is being truthful, not helping an ass. Go hug the 18 wheelers on the highway.
seriously? that's necessary? someone has anger issues!
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Why didn't you just tell them bad things?
As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.