By unseeable - 29/08/2014 21:21 - United States - Gilbert
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To clear up some questions I wanna start by saying I'm 17 and currently training to be a manager at mcdonalds. I work 40 hours a week and go to high school as a senior. I don't have much time for friends so they figured grounding me wasn't exactly the best punishment. They decided to start charging me for bad grades or not being able to do some chores or simple stuff like that, nothing too major. I thought that it seemed a little unjust for taking my hard worked money from me because of course it only happens to me in my family because I work the most and everyone else has more time for being grounded.
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OP, not sure about your personal situation, but if they're spending the money mostly on themselves, or taking arbitrary amounts of money from you based on how angry they are... yeah that's closer to stealing than parenting, and you might want to have a conversation with them about it. My parents used to do this to me as well, often without telling me. They would simply offer a list of issues at the end of the week after I discovered my bank account was mysteriously empty. Eventually I told them they were sending unhelpful messages about making financial decisions. If they wanted to keep up this method of discipline, the money wouldn't go into their bank accounts, to spend on themselves but into a separate bank account. One that would go towards Christmas savings, or a charity or something. They also now figure out how much I owe them after they've had some time to cool down, rather than based on their emotions.
Say what you will but that is effective parenting.
This system would be good if once the parent took the money, they put it in a saving account. However, the op hopefully doesn't get in trouble that much. When I got my first job I was still in HS. Not a whole lot of time to get in trouble.
That's a bit shady to me. It's your money, you earned it. You screwing up shouldn't result in financial gain for them.
You people defending the parents worry me. If they're going to take his money as punishment, then they better be donating it to charity, investing it in a college fund, something along those lines. Because if they're not doing that, if OP's wages are just going into his parents' bank account, then that means they have access to it for personal use. That's stealing! Do you not see it? It doesn't matter if the parents "decided" not to spend OP's money -- once it hits their bank account, they ARE spending OP's money, because the money they took is lumped in with the money they have. There is no note in their account that says "don't spend THIS particular amount, it's only for punishment." Once again, they might be donating this money to charity, which would be reasonable. But if that's not the case, then this WILL get worse. Once OP's parents start to see his punishments as a source of money, they could come up with anything to justify taking more of it. If the money is not going to charity, then his parents don't deserve the protection of "my roof, my rules". They're demanding protection money.
spending somebody elses money on charity is still theft because you aren't dinating your own money...
Pretty sure that's illegal. We can't even legally have someone that is not the named person on a pay cheque pick it up without permission.
Open a new account at a different bank. Then, arrange through your job to make automatic deposits.
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They shouldnt do that. U earned it
40hrs and school, of course your study time is going to be effected. must suck going to class, then work, and be expected to do chores. only plus side is you will be prepared for life when you get your own place. keep you head up.