By branwen5 - 09/10/2009 02:26 - United States

Today, I had my final divorce proceeding. The judge denied my divorce because my husband is unemployed. I can't get a divorce until he gets a job to pay child support. He hasn't had a job for 3 years. FML
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StarGirl11 0

I don't know much about divorce proceedings but I am guessing this doesn't normally happen, so I would recommend maybe trying to get another judge for the case? Just a suggestion, don't know if it will help.

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bigcrazymike 6

I'm calling bullshit. Unless you have some backwards ass hick for a judge, he shouldn't give two ***** about bankrupting your already jobless husband for that child support money.

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paivarotti 0

Either the judge is a retard and you should ask for a new one, or your lawyer is a retard and you should get a new one. Either way it's completely retarded that the Judiciary should have this amount of control over someone's life. Once you get this much retardedness in one place, it's time to buy a gun and do some gene pool cleansing.

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toomanycats 0

If you can't divorce him, throw his ass to the curb and let him find his own place to live, eat, sleep, shower, watch tv, etc. There's no reason you can't throw him out of the house. Change the locks and leave his stuff in the lawn. That's what I'd do. But seriously, you definitely need a different lawyer. It makes no sense whatsoever that you'd be denied a divorce because your lazy husband doesn't have a job.

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PoeticPixie 0

I agree completely. You have to have a judge for a divorce. You do not have to have one for a separation. Kick his butt out and motivate him to get a job. And I partly say YDI, because seriously, if yo had been pushing, and helping him look, he would have had a job by now, unless your expectations were too high. The economy is crap, but there ARE jobs, so tell your husband to let go of a little of his pride and go get a job at McDonald's.

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michaelcarell 0

mmmmmmmcccccccccddddoonnaaaaallldddddssss!!

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airbornerose 0

Unfortunately, you cannot get an appeal. The judge denied you a final order, and you can only do an appeal to change a final order. You're ******. Start a business, hire your husband, get the divorce, and fire his ass. That's about the only thing you can do, if he won't get a job.

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airbornerose 0

The judge can most definitely deny due to support issues. I've worked at a law firm for years and unfortunately, I've seen something like this happen. It sucks, but it can be done.

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Mommy2KAR420 0

Alot of the commenters here are missing the point. You guys are saying to kick him out of the house - people don't typically get a divorce living in the same household. It's a safe bet that he's been out of the house for quite a while (either living with someone or what not) - my parent's divorce took over 7 years. Whoever has physical custody of the children will receive child support - it may not be much but they are entitled to it unless they forgo it, which is a stupid idea: if he winds up making a LOT of money 5 years from now and she winds up unemployed, that money would help. And forfeiting child support also means giving up his help for college and these days it takes all the money people can muster up to send their kids to college. There is a lot underlying child support that shouldn't be forfeited. OP, I don't know the law but I'd suggest just talking to some other lawyers and seeing if you have any options. Good luck!

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ozymandias_fml 0

Wait -- why would the father be expected to pay for college? It's the kid's job to pay for college. Just like it should be the responsibility of the parent that wants the kids to pay for them. If he doesn't want the kids, and she does, she can pay for them.

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bexwiggy 0

What? That didn't even make sense--how old are you, 12?

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RazorFox16 0

#55, you're totally missing the point. The parents are usually expected to at least HELP pay for their children to go to college. Even if she wants them to go, she may not be able to help them pay for it when the time comes. The OP won't have that job forever, and she may not have it in a matter of months, if that. WANTING to doesn't mean you'll be ABLE to.

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ozymandias_fml 0

I think you are missing the point. The person going to college is (presumably) an adult. They can pay for their own college. Why are their parents obligated to pay *anything* after they turn 18? Even presuming child support is forced upon the non-custodial parent (if the parent does not get to have the kids, they should not be obligated to pay, but that is another story), any money not spent directly on or for the child ought to be refunded, with interest, when the child is 18. If the *CHILD* support was not needed or used to support a child, the judge screwed up, and the non-custodial parent should not be punished for that mistake.

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shaaekli 0

#62, You are aware that the majority of child support agreements require the non-custodial parent to support the child until they are 21 as long as they are in school? Parents are expected to pay for college. When you apply for scholarships and federal loans, they tell you how much your parents are expected to pay of your tuition.

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ozymandias_fml 0

You are fully aware that just because something is the current system doesn't make it fail, equitable, or even reasonable, right? Why are the kids any different than a car or a house? Whoever wants to keep them can make the payments on them.

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ozymandias_fml 0

If the OP can't adequately care for the children without additional money, the children should be given to someone that can.

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DollyDoll2 0

#63 My dad stopped paying Child support for my sister when she became 18 and she's still in school he only sends money for my brother and I.

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shaaekli 0

Right, and that would put you in the minority and not the majority that I was talking about.

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DollyDoll2 0

i meant 62 not 63 sorry

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hauptubel 0

well I can see why you divorced him lol

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alicenjay 0

If he doesn't have a job and you have control of the children... then why the hell are you expecting child support payments? You're clearly the one earning. I don't know about the US, but in the UK, the divorce courts have a tendency to force the one earning to offer financial support to a divorced partner if he or she could not viably keep themselves afloat financially, as it were.

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zuli_fml 0

That's alimony. Alimony =/= child support

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kira1kira 0

i didn't know that could happen (yes I'm 14) to me that sounds like " you have to stay married until he can give you money"?

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