Here's a crazy idea! Tell the judge you are not a gold digger and are willing to pay for your own damn kids.

I have never once in my life ever heard of a judge denying a divorce period. Can they actually do that?

You sexist pig! Being a stay-at-home dad is a JOB! Just because he operates your home from his man-cave with a wall plastered with 20 TV's all tuned to sports, huntin' shows and ****, sitting on a combination recliner/beer fridge makes it no less valuable. Bring the man a sammich, bitch!

Biggest reason he declined the divorce because of a jobless husband is because just that. If you, a woman, divorced an unemployed man, you're making more then he is. You would be paying him alamony. That's on top of paying for your kids. Being married, you have a loophole not to give him any money. In this case, the judge made the right call for the time being. Be Thankful!

Excuse me? I've been divorced. NO judge will stop a divorce because the man isn't working. It doesn't happen. So where ever you are, what the judge did isn't even legal in the USA. My ex was unemployed for a year. Judge told him he had to get a job to pay his support OR go to jail. The judge wasn't dumb enough to tell me I wasn't getting a divorce because my dead beat ex wasn't working. That had Nothing to do with me. And, the poster needs a REAL attorney, because hers did not do his job.

Claim some past abuse. That'll change the judge's mind asap. And if it doesn't, go to the press: "Judge won't allow woman out of abusive relationship!" won't be a pretty headline for the judge.

Actually, the laws regarding divorce vary from state to state. There was just a big flap a few months back that made it onto national news...something about New York's ridiculous divorce laws, and the fact that a judge can deny a divorce pretty much on any grounds he or she sees fit. I divorced in California. I actually had the judge argue with me because I waived the state computed child support/alimony of $1200, and asked instead for only $500 monthly. I was married to my husband for 12 years, and while I stayed home and raised our kids, he jumped on a Navy vessel and let his penis wander around every port he visited. Still, regardless of my problems with my husband, I want him to be an active, involved father more than I want his money. We have it worked out so he sends $$ to help me offset the increasingly high cost when things like school clothes and dental work are needed, but overall, I just manage on my own, and don't ever see the $500 that he and I settled on monthly. I'm OK with that, because I know if I run into dire straits, he'll step up and help out. That being said, I do strongly feel that OP should have ditched this guy's ass sooner. I also feel as he has been unemployed for 3 years, that there is a sense of self-entitlement (I've known guys like that), and suspect he has been a leech for some time. Any job is better than no job, not only in the sense of contributing to the household, but in the sense of self esteem and whatnot, especially for a man (you men are weird sometimes....just sayin'.) Most men don't like to be forced into what is still largely seen as the woman's role...staying home and tending a home and raising kids. I've known very few men that even remotely enjoyed it, because it actually proves to be more work than one might think. And a lot of you folks that are calling her a gold digger are missing the point entirely. If the husband is a lazy sod who refuses to help (one would think machismo would dictate he get SOME kind of job after 3 years) out financially or otherwise, then as our laws are written the wife is entitled to restitution in the form of alimony and child support. If she supported his jobless ass, and he had kids with her, then he should have to contribute too. I'd say the same (and have said the same...remember, I was a military wife so I saw a crap-ton of lazy, good for nothing women in that time) about a lazy, slacker, drooling lump of a wife who does nothing. I'm sure I'll be lambasted as sexist, but I think at this point in our (collective) social development, we have not yet steered firmly away from gender role assignments.

3 years without a job?? That sucks. But what's the reason? He doesn't want to work or he can't work? You also can support him finding a job, then you divorce him :)

This makes no sense, a Judge cannot deny a divorce on the grounds the husband is jobless and can't pay child support. What would happen is that the judge would of ruled that the husband had a set date to get a job and start paying child support or face legal consequences like jail

You're a ******* liar.