He wanted you to take the better job so he could mooch off you in higher style. With your higher paycheck, he could lounge on your couch and drink nice, European beers instead of that domestic swill your meager earnings can buy him. I don't know why you didn't discuss the new job with him before making your decision. Are you two very close?

If you are upset about your boyfriend breaking up with you, you must care for him. Why did you not discuss the oppurtunity with him and make a decesion together? That only seems realistic.

Logic is not useful in this story. She thought she had an either-or choice, but when she turned down the job, she unexpectedly lost the boyfriend, too. My question is why she didn't discuss the job with the boyfriend before she made the decision? If she knew he would dump her for not taking the job, she certainly would have accepted it. Makes no sense.

You don't need man to complete your life... You need job to complete it...

Do you love hem that much?

This suggests you made a major life decision without consulting him. It's also unclear if staying with means in a relationship or just in physical space. If he told you it was him or the job and dumped you anyway, then this does suck. Otherwise, YDI for not talking to him. Actually, since it's unclear, I figure YDI.

Sounds like he was just looking for an excuse!

@ #47 It would be a little different if OP had said my fiance or my boyfriend of 2+ years.

In a bad economy it's worth taking a job and making long distance work. When me and my now husband did it, the Internet wasn't an option. Video calls, emails and texts just weren't there. But we made it work. And personally no matter how much I love someone I'm going to take care of myself job and education wise so I don't end up resenting the person I gave it up for. It sucks op. You were in a hard spot and tried to do what you thought was best to have it backfire.

That must mean theres still time to get the job