Agree with #82. How the heck does going to a resort on the beach with a bar that serves Mai Tai cocktails count as the "outdoors"? They have a hotel room, for God's sake. If she had taken him camping, we could all say "you deserved it", but a beach resort in Hawaii is about as outdoors as a hotel near a large park in Paris or Berlin. Give me a @#(#@*@ break.

Your boyfriend sounds like my mom's asshole boyfriend. He bitched for weeks about wanting to go to San Diego so my mom booked a hotel in San Diego, paid for it any everything. He bitches the entire trip about how she didn't choose the "right hotel." May I ask WHY you put up with this shit? I once dated an asshole and he was out the door in 3 months (by the way, it would have been sooner but I spent the 3rd month in the hospital barely able to speak --the fact that he never visited would have sealed his fate even if he weren't otherwise an asshole). Seriously, DUMP HIM! MOVE ON! Find somebody who actually APPRECIATES you efforts! You deserve better!

I don't like the outdoors veary much eather, but I did have a fantastic it in Hawaii a few years back, and I would diffenatly go back. Aggre that you might want to dump him, if he does not appreacat what you did, then he's not for you. RI

but there're stuff to do without having to be very outdoor. outdoor would mean something like biking, camping, kayaking (for me). enjoying the beach is not exactly outdoor stuff. unless he's allergic to sun or something. so he just want to lock himself in the room, hating the sun, and read? he could at least enjoy the beach... if not, YDI for taking some guy who thinks he's vampire to hawaii. but even if he's a "vampire", he still can go out at night.. unless your bf is just a jerk. cancel the ticket home and leave him there.

@Poki: Can we please get of twlilight, its geting annoying. But I do agree with you, that there is pleanty of indoor stuff you could do. it just that the OP needs to fined something that they can do together, insted of drinking her sowwrows away with $10 Mai tai's. RI

He's a jackass. My friends are in Hawaii right now partying their faces off on vacations from work. i am sure you could get with them, they all love the out doors, and they are always down for partying in other places.

Ouch. Well, that's why I avoid buying expensive gifts.

Time to check out the cabana boys while Captain Sulkfest enjoys his book.

1. Spending $4000 on something for someone you've been seeing for just ONE year? There's being generous and then there's "What the hell?!" 2. Surprise trip = Nice in theory, idiotic in practice. Generous? Yes. Thoughtful? Not so much. "Here, I just spent X amount of money deciding where you wanna go and when, without even consulting you!" 3. Organising a $4000 surprise trip for someone who you have been dating for a year but obviously have not had many conversations with since you didn't know he hates the place you chose = A) You should probably know a person better before pulling something this huge, and/or B) It's where YOU wanted to go, and wanted to bring him along - which means it wasn't for HIM, it was for YOU and you just didn't wanna be alone, so you're not this saintly generous human being anyway (especially since you said yourself that he was mad at you for "bringing him here"). It is perfectly reasonable to expect that, having dated someone for a year, you would have mentioned at some point places you would like to go, or activities you despise. On top of this, while many of us would see Hawaii as a dream vacation, not everyone feels that way. Duh. Seeing how you clearly don't know the guy too well, or just plain ignored this kind of information, then it's a YDI. Also, I don't see why you're bitching about him reading in his room. You're on the internet. Must be one killer vacation. Sure, he could be seen as being a tad ungrateful for not appreciating you dragging his ass there, but you're the one complaining about it whilst on vacation in Hawaii. He's not the only ungrateful idiot in the relationship, obviously.

wow #93 you have waaaaaaaaay too much time on your hands.. As for the poster: You need to dump that bitch you have for a boyfriend.