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By DoomsDay - 06/05/2016 14:23

Today, I realized that even though I'm marrying my fiancée in 2 weeks, I don't even love her any more. The only reason I'm doing it is because I don't want to upset her or her family, because they think I'm the best thing that ever happened to her. FML
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Top comments

You'll hurt her greatly if you don't marry her. But you'll hurt both of you so much more if you marry her without loving her. Better to endure a great pain for a while than live years in a lie.

IAm123 24

Don't get married, then. When she finds out she would have wished not to get married to you.

Comments

Baron_Kaz 15

Grass seems always greener on the other side. Do a ROI, if she is worth it, go forward with the marriage. If not: dump her. Consider breeding potential, genetics, money, education, societal advantage, family ties, etc. Love is for idiots and greeting card companies. Marriage is to get a partner and produce kids. Make no mistake: it's a job!

I hope one day you get to be one of those idiots, because it is the best feeling in the world.

tounces7 27

What are you doing posting here, Hillary Clinton?

My brother's fiancé called off their wedding a month before it was to happen. It was the best thing that could of happened to him. He is now happily married to someone else.

mttr36 17

Bro that's ****** up I'm sorry

saffy66 34

Better to hurt her now than later. At least you will be giving her the chance to find someone who will love her and appreciate her.

ADBurns 22

Seriously - DO NOT GET MARRIED! take this from a guy who on his second and friends are divorcing because "I didn't want to hurt her feelings at the time" it will hurt far more and for far longer if you get married..

Mysterybounty 6

Why the **** did you propose to someone you don't love?

It could have been a long engagement. We don't know. OP may have proposed a year ago when he was still in love.

1known_fml 8

Well remember marriage and love are two different things. You'll never find a law saying that you have to love someone in order to have your marriage valid. And that's a good thing. And from a Catholic point of view (and they did think a lot about marriage for the past centuries), you don't marry someone because you love him/her but in order to love him/her. In other words once married, you make him/her your number one priority and built this love. But this can only be done if you both are on the same track. So being honest with you fiancée and checking where you both stand is probably the thing to do.

I was in a similar situation. I was young, first real relationship I had been in, and first time I'd ever made a decision on my own. Nobody really liked him and I wasn't in love with him, but I was going to show people I could make my own decisions. Less than two years later we divorced. To this day (ten years later) I regret not being honest with him and myself. The pain he endured in the end was so not fair and I felt like a horrible person, because I was. My point is, just because you don't want to look like the bad guy and hurt her, you'll be hurting her more down the road. Love shouldn't be a lie, it should be something that makes everyday worth living. Eventually your unhappiness will begin to show no matter how well you think you're hiding it.

you are taking away her chance on a real happy relationship the longer you stay.

Marrying her without loving her is more cruel than leaving her - you're lying to her, and that will hurt so much more when she finds out.