You can't do that. Seriously, it will suck a lot NOW if you don't marry her, but it will suck so MUCH MORE LATER if you do!

I know others have already said it, but it bears repeating: please, please, please don't marry her! Tell her the truth. Maybe the relationship can be saved, maybe it can't. If you get married without being 100% sure, you are dooming it to fail. Marriage is hard even when both parties are invested 100%. A situation like this will only lead to resentment and misery on both sides. Trust me "/ It's not too late to do the right thing! As far as what "everyone" thinks, it can go one of two ways. If you and she decide to work on your relationship, all that anyone else needs to hear is that you *both* decided the timing wasn't right and it was better to wait. If you decide that what you really want is to not be with her anymore at all, then you won't have to see those other people anymore anyway!

Seems you deserve lot worse as the whole decision is not taken in one night when u say you care about your in laws, when you did that announcement there must some reason, and if u did it for fun then mate you fooling yourself noother.

They don't want her with anyone who doesn't love her. Stop being a coward and tell her the truth instead of continuing to lie to this poor girl ruining her life.

In a marriage (which is unrealistic concept to me anyway) you both must be happy with one another. It's not all about your soon to be spouse. you both must be in mutual agreement, and at least maintain some sort of love in it. That is in theory though.

The best thing to do here, OP, is to not go through with the wedding. It will only hurt both of you more in the long term if you go through with it. Best of luck whatever happens

You should just be honest to her and yourself too. Lies are not driving you on the right road

Your good man for not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings but you happiness is more important than a sham marriage. So think of yourself and do what's right for you. I'm sure she would be doing what's right for her if she we're in your shoes. But good luck with whatever you choose to do ?

leave her. it'll hurt like hell but it's right and the best thing to do for you both. you shouldn't carry it on

It's easier said than done, but you can't go on like this. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to her. You need to tell her right now so both of you can start the healing process. They'll hate you and you'll hate yourself if you go through with the marriage and then you want to get out. Eventually she will ask you why you didn't just tell her beforehand, and what are you going to say? "I was too scared"? "I didn't want to hurt you"? No. It'll all be a lie.