Yes we and written instructions help too : 1. Remove articles of clothing 2. Get in bed and those are all the instructions I can add without getting censured by FML.

I meant yes we do

Actually that's not true at all. My husband is more affectionate than I am and I love to snuggle and hold hands and stuff all the time. He's told me its very important to him.

Yes it can go either way about who is more affectionate. Sometimes it is the men who are more touchy feely. I was just responding to ops experience and mine. My husband is not very physically affectionate, but I am secure in his love. I just hope op can handle it. Thanks for responding. : ).

94- Thought I'd add my preference to the thread too: Lucky for us, my wife and I are both very touchy people, it just doesn't feel right for us to be in the same room and not be in physical contact. Our kids are never lacking in hugs for it. :) We've been married 5 and a half years, and that's never decreased. We're not insecure or needy people either, just we both are very comfortable in our skins and expressionate. Some people are fortunate to find another that matches their preferences for how much personal space they require, but I'm sure that doesn't mean we love each over more than you love your significant other necessarily. It's just how we choose to show it. :) Just sharing! Cheers! ;)

#77, your personal experience doesn't make what rubberduckie said any less true. She said "some guys" and I gather that applies to some girls, too. I think her advice was the most sensible here. I'm not sure why you'd be engaged to someone you can't talk to so I hope for OP's sake she just hadn't brought it up yet. He could be unaware of the issue or he could just be a person who values personal space. Either way, talk it out and compromise. How often do you just touch him?