Hold your horses! He can change, people DO change, haha. If we don't, people would never mature, we'd all be tall 2 year olds. Even as grown ups, we change. All he lacks is a good conversation and the will to change. He might not be a bad person overall, so leaving him might not be a good idea.

So your husband IS like that!

They are not married so it isn't considered divorce. plus if he refuses to be more affectionate which is important to her, she should break off the engagement. There are plenty of guys that do like to hold hands, kiss their wives and hug them because they enjoy it.

It's a pending marriage so no it's not a divorce but it's more than just a boyfriend/girlfriend breaking up. If he flat out refuses to then she could consider it but she'd really need to think hard on it about whether affection or the love of her life is more important.

OP here. The affection thing is really the only thing I can complain about in our relationship. He's an awesome fiance, and father to our child, and we do have a lot of fun together, the only place we don't click is the snuggling. I touch him like on the leg or the shoulder and things like that every time we are near each other, I'd just like it to be reciprocated without having to lead to sex.

Then if that's the least of your problems consider yourself lucky! No two people click 100% with absolutely everything so I'd just talk to him about it and see he'd be willing to do more with it. My best advice on marriage is to not let yourselves forget why you fell In love in the first place. Continue to go on dates, watch cheesy romance movies (we just saw The Vow and are way way gushy right now), do whatever it is that makes each other laugh, etc. Ignore people that tell you to leave when things get tough because they will but those times make you stronger as a couple.

I've dated guys like that and trust me, it will become an even bigger issue if affection is something you need, and no he won't change. Dump him and find an affectionate guy.

I married a man like that. I thought he'd change because we talked about it seriously before we were married. He did change for a tiny bit of time but once he settled into life and we were married it didn't matter. For guys that are not affectionate they have to remind themselves to be all the time. When they get lazy about it you suffer for it. I've been married 10 years and I'm lonely. Sex is great (and I LOVE sex with him) BUT it would be nice to feel loved and to be shown love. Sex is not love and I get tired of felling like an object and used. I believe in marriage forever so I've had to learn to live with my decision. it's better to decided now if it's something you can live with. You NEVER marry someone hoping they'll change. You evaluate how they are now and decided if you can live with it. We are all different and no one will click in everything but figure out what you want and what you can and can't live with.

^ At least he Sometimes touches her? So, she should settle with getting physical affection the 5 to 10 percent of the time she desires it? And then only for sex? Would you compromise and settle with having your needs met 5% of the time? :( If so, I pity your low standards and lack of self worth. :(