^ yeah, that's definitely good revenge. hair is important to girls.

And shave her eyebrows

And cut holes into her favorite outfits

Whoa, let's just calm the **** down.

Considering the wife has a BOYFRIEND while she is still married (signing the divorce papers doesn't mean the marriage is over), I think Doc is right on the money with this suggestion. Also, never calm an angry Trauma Surgeon...

Lmao.

So? They're in the midst of a divorce which makes them still married and her a cheater.

It takes awhile for divorce to be final, signing the papers in not the end of it.

Emotional connections don't end just because you signed a document.

EXACTLY. Just because he signed divorce papers doesn't mean it's final. It can take up to 60 days until the judge rules you legally divorced. Any relationships during this waiting period are technically considered adultery. The fact that she already has a boyfriend leads one to believe that they've been talking for some time, possibly long before the divorce was initiated. I don't know why the divorce happened or who was more at fault, but that doesn't justify the soon-to-be ex-wife's behavior. Think of it this way OP; if she's "moving on" this fast, she's probably on the rebound, and that usually doesn't end well. You know what they say -- "the grass is always greener". Well, she'll soon find out that she needs a little time to herself to rediscover who she is and to regroup, and when that happens, she'll likely be neck-deep in a relationship. Then she'll want out again, and it will likely be a really big pain for all involved. The best thing for you to do is to create as much distance from her as possible. If you can, keep everything she does a secret from yourself. If you have to delete her family members from your Facebook friends list, so be it.

I disagree. Sometimes the marriage is over and the legal status is just a technicality. Not to mention that a divorce can take months or years. I started the divorce process with my husband when I met someone new, but he had slept around, spent my money on alcohol, and was physically abusive.

Thank you for you support. It is hard as it is to deal with all of this.

You certainly have the right to disagree, but it's the law that I'm talking about and technically he can make a big case if he finds out she is sleeping around this early on in the divorce proceedings. Clearly, we are talking about a mere couple of days (hours, even) in the case of this FML, which is why I find it unacceptable. Obviously, one must be understanding and use their best judgment should the divorce take more than a couple of months. One must move on eventually; and no, you should not wait to move on if the divorce takes the better part of a year. However, I stand by my case that she has no business having a boyfriend and basically waving it in front of his face the day he was served with the papers. I've been divorced also, and I know that it can get nasty, but you must be respectful of yourself, the process and your soon-to-be ex-spouse. "Moving on" this early on, while they are still living together (for whatever reason) is just not right. Obviously this FML is not like situations where the marriage remains legal after many months or years of separation (again, for whatever reason), and you end up needing to get a divorce so that you can get remarried. I am sorry that your husband was physically abusive. This, in my eyes, is one of the only justifiable reasons for divorce. For anyone wondering, I did not initiate my divorce, nor had either one of us been abused, abused each other, or cheated (to my knowledge).

The law doesn't take adultery into account in no fault states. My husband's physical abuse can't even be held against him in FL. I just think that if the marriage is over there's no point in waiting for it to be "legal." Though I agree that the wife is wrong and cruel in this situation.

141 - fair enough :-). And I'm sure we can both agree that after any serious relationship, it is almost always in your best interest to take some time to gather yourself. No matter who the fault lies with, you need time to heal, and you can't very well do that while trying to cultivate a new relationship. The trauma must be dealt with properly, or it will always haunt you.

Who thumbed down? That's basic advice that everyone should take. So many relationships fail because people don't know what the heck it is they want and rush in to things blindly. Read a book on relationships or talk to a relationship counselor if you don't believe me. They will all say the same thing.

thats a very interesting idea

Aww, no profit? What's a good revenge scheme without profit? |the kid|

sorry. *5. get him drunk until he passes out. *6. ???? *7. PROFIT!! wait that sounds bad.....

You forgot 9. ??? 10. Profit!

Or he could hire an investigator to find out who the boyfriend is and cut those years down to maybe a few months considering you still have to befriend him.

Maybe you