@80: THANK YOU. It's so nice to see somebody here who doesn't have a completely heteronormative mindset.

and did you dump him after that? please say YES!

Next time you should save your time and effort and get him one of the cheap-o cards from WalMart. They're like, 38 cents or something.

#70 is right. OP: Not all guys are self-centered asshats. Some will care about more than being fed and ****** and actually appreciate the effort that you put into making them smile and laugh. Now, I'm not saying your boyfriend is one of these, as I am all for finding practical uses of sentimental items, it's great that he's going to see it often (while it lasts). But using it as a coaster is going to cause damage, which shows that he couldn't have cared much. And #80, what difference does it make if it is a guy or a girl? It's someone who put a lot of effort into making their boyfriend happy and it was grossly unappreciated. What's your point?

@81: Silly us for asuming something perfectly normal! Shame on us guyzzzz..... and galz! lets not forget about it or someone will rageeeee oh yeah and gayzzz too.

That sucks, I completely understand. I make cards for my big brother EVERY birthday/christmas. Along with other gifts, I just think homade things are alot more special rather something bought from a store. And every birthday/christmas I find them in this bin that he keeps all of his old music & things. I try to stop caring, though it is hard.

yeah the boy's a jerk. i say for your birthday do the same with his gift.

Hey, I'm sorry that happened. I guess in the future, if you two stay together, maybe make him cookies instead? That way, they can be enjoyed as they are intended and will never end up neglected or abused somehow. My last ex-boyfriend, I once made him a three-dimensional polyhedron. I spent many hours carefully measuring each piece to be as precise as possible, using precision math tools, and then I carefully cut each edge with a scalpel so it would go together neatly and pinched the edges together with tweezers. At the end, I put it on a chain so he could wear it around his neck. Well, he took hold of the chain and swung it recklessly, crashing it into tables and dropping it into the floor. He swung it so hard he broke the metal chain, and I take it as credit to my handiwork that the (paper) polyhedron didn't break. Two days later, he'd destroyed it spilling ramen on it. I was fool enough to make him another one. He put it in his pocket and sat on it a few minutes later. Paper polyhedra are strong, but not strong enough to support a person's weight. I'd like to say, give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and assume he simply didn't know how much you put into your card. It was a bit insensitive of him to use it as a coaster in front of you, but I like to think he honestly didn't know it would hurt you. Probably best to talk to him about it, so in the future he will know. I hope this doesn't hurt your relationship! Peace.

For his next birthday you can get him a sock to keep him company, as you'll be off finding a guy who's less of a tool.

good call #89. yeah though dudes do not care about cards. i give my bf one each year for our anniversary or his birthday. i can tell he really doesn't give a shit about it. he wants to go to the present or just hear i love him. sucks though. = (