By reality_stricken - 04/11/2009 14:00 - Guam

Today, I told my boyfriend I was afraid he would no longer love me when he returned from basic training. Hoping he would reassure me his feelings wouldn't change and we'd still be together, he replied instead, "Shit happens." FML
I agree, your life sucks 36 436
You deserved it 8 162

Same thing different taste

Top comments

the1truebob 0

I can understand why she'd be devastated. But, honestly, that's a ridiculous question to ask. If you honestly have to ask that type of question, be prepared for heartbreak, because you're not going to last. Have some trust in your relationship and support his decision. Don't make his leaving for basic training about you. Asking a question like that shows him that all you care about is whether or not he'll still care for you. It's not about you. It's about him. Stop being so selfish.

Sounds like a typical female to say something she doesn't mean to get a man to say something he doesn't mean..... YDI

Comments

youngartist 0

my boyfriend just got out of the army and he never said anything like that when i always told him i was afraid to lose him. If this man is saying stupid shit like that then you don't deserve him if he shows he dont give a shit

I completely agree with youngartist. There is no excuse to say things like that or treat your loved one so callously. She is wasting her time on him, I hope she ditches his ass.

I went through Basic training for the Army. He will come back loving you more than ever.

quarty165 0

don't count on it from a jerk. find someone better.

actually, people in the army are more likely to cheat.

First off, there is more than one branch of military. Second, military men aren't more likely to cheat and military couples don't have higher divorce rates. Both those opinions are common but incorrect. Third, have some respect for the people out there that have more balls than you and put their lives on the line so you can post grossly inaccurate ramblings on the internet without government reprisal.

fromthesuck 8

actually people in the military are more likely to be sheated on. he probably knows what she's capable of and knows it might be possible for her to egt lonely while he is away and doesn't want to invest too much into her onle for her to let him down

Erindub 0

You really ought to have the confidence to approach the subject in a different less accusing manner. At least you learned a lesson.

Just because the OP is afraid of her boyfriend not loving her after he gets back from basic doesn't mean she is high maintenance. My boyfriend is at Marine Corps boot camp and I was terrified of anything happening to us. Going through boot camp can completely change someone. But the fear of them leaving you isn't a feeling you'll understand unless you go through it. OP trust me, unless you have plans for a future after he gets out, it is not worth it. It is a lot of frustration and if thats the way he treats you now, don't put yourself through it.

YDI for being insecure about your relationship. If you really had nothing to worry about you would'nt have asked that question in the first place.

Okay , first of all ..Pinkdancer is totally right, if hes going to to blatently tell you that Shit happens, hes probably already cheated on you, or will. Also hes a piece of shit for saying that or being in a relationship and expecting you to wait around for him and waste you time with not even giving you a simple reassurance, my boyfriend of 2 years recently went away to the Army, and i will tell you first hand that if a man loves you he will reassure all the time spilling his heart to you ,even when you dont ask, HE WILL BE THE ONE SCARED TO LOSE YOU , and thats the way it should be.. my adive. I know its easier said than done to break up with his stupid ass.. but you really need to do it. You'll be better off =]

you dont even know how long theyve been together. what if he doesnt lover her. so what. he doesnt have to. you dont know.

brocksbabe 0

Its the military crap...trust me hes in that mind set of i dont give a f*** about anything, dont read to much onto it- im a army wife, and its hard to handle but you just gotta deal.