what did you expect? some sappy ass love movie answer? "ill always love you babe." i like how alot of the guys see where he is coming from and all the women agree with her. i agree with number 8. but i at least would have said just kidding and gave her a hug or something.

Several things: She just wanted reassurance. She wasn't fishing for compliments, and when most people ask a serious question, they either want or expect a certain answer. It's probably a good thing that he responded so honestly, because now she knows he doesn't care enough to make it worth her while to pretty much live for the times when this person will be able to see her. Even if she is being supportive of his decision, he should at least have the decency to reassure her that he'll try not to let it change the way they feel about each other. That kind of decision doesn't only effect one life, and takes reassurance and support from both ends. The majority of people who join the army are not "risking their lives" to protect us. Everyone who joins goes to basic. Even if they'll be sitting at a desk filing paperwork. OP, if he's not just an asshole, chances are he's worried about the same thing. There are A LOT of guys in the military that get cheated on and left while they're gone, and he's probably heard the stories. He may just be trying to protect himself by acting like he doesn't care.

bitch. not the OP. all of you. ******** all over men. sexist bitches.

Basic training is 18 weeks (or close to that at least). Just think about that. You'll see plenty of people everyday and how can you be so sure that you'll still want him? That is over four months and he's just a boyfriend, not a husband. I've personally never seen a military based relationship work. **** him find someone else.

My girlfriend asked me the same thing right before I left for boot camp. I reassured her that I'd always love her and she said the same to me. Once out of boot camp I went to tech school and proposed to her she said yes. 3 weeks later she dumped me for another guy...FML...it could be worse...

LOL @ you. I would have said the same.

I was reading the comments posted, and most people seem to have no idea what the hell basic training is like. My boyfriend is in the army and it has changed many things about him we don't get to talk wednesdays, and two weekends a month and then whenever he leaves for exercises. Its hard on a relationship when your boyfriend is constantly gone and unable to talk. And basic training is not a simple training camp, my boyfriend will be gone for 2 and a 1/2 months and who knows what will happen over there and what will change him. I don't doubt our relationship but you never know what will happen and I have had the exact same thoughts run through my head that I just keep to myself because this is something that he has always wanted to do so I support that. It doesnt make it easy though, I have already heard of many stories of his fellow army buddies and their wives and girlfriends have cheated on them or they came home not wanting the same things anymore. It can be difficult but it is also very possible, even if you get to talk 3 or 4 times through out his basic that obviously means something. Chances are the same thoughts are running through his head as well he is just less than likely to discuss that with you.

I have been with a lot of guys who have been away on training and there are a few different things that can happen. Firstly, I was with a guy and as some of you have said, we said we'd be together and he'd always say he'd call etc etc but after training he changed and he gave up and nothing was ever the same and we eventually broke up. This time, I am with a guy who is like the one you are with. He doesn't make promises he can't keep and understands that training is a lot harder than expected. In fact, he is away training for 2 weeks right now. And we don't ask questions like will you still love me or want to be with me, instead we promise each other that he will contact me at least twice while he is away. It is you who makes the effort a lot of the time while he is away, but by being in the relationship, it is you who has said "i can deal with this". Saying what he said does not mean he does not love you. Being away is hard, it changes people and like anything, you can't predict the future. People deal with things in different ways and if "shit happens" is his way of dealing, surely you would've known that if you are already dating him!

Well. My boyfriend is about to be done with basic he just had a pass over the weekend ad i got to see him. he writes about 3 times a week and tells me how much i mean to him. You wont get to talk to him but here and there. Though it means everythig. When you get those phone calls. But things might change whe he gets there. Its hard but if he or you truely care it will work. but i think you should have not thought so much about him not loving you aymore and think about the support you needed to show him instead. because that will make all of the difference and is scared and nervous and doest really know what expect.

lol!! I'll bet he's gonna come back gay!!!!