I'm so sorry OP. I really recommend the book "Why Does He Do That?" There's a whole chapter on the manipulation methods abusers use to bring family members and friends to their side, it is so so validating to realize A) that the abuser is, on some level, fairly conscious of their techniques (the book astounded me in the ways that was demonstrated), B) that it's not your being crazy or wrong but truly their manipulation causing that reaction, and C) that you're not alone in your experiences. Stay strong, you do deserve to get away and while you don't deserve these additional battles, when they're in the past you will be happier for having gotten through them.

To be fair, all people involved it is a natural thing to consider? However you should come first, of course!

screw that! you have every right to be happy and mentally healthy, I really hope you can get the help that you need, even if it is not from your mother, I'm sorry you had to went through that OP

Talk to your mom, OP. Tell her exactly why you're divorcing him and that someone like that shouldn't even be in the family. Good luck and hopefully you can find the support you need.

That's ****** up, she cares more about your abusive husband than your own safety and health. :(

Hey I'm proud of you keep sticking up for yourself

your mom's a bitch

Screw her and your husband, and I wish you the best in your divorce op.

Family like that who needs enemies.

Are you able to divorce family on grounds of stupidity and apathy?