By jessroses - 31/03/2016 13:36 - Australia - Melbourne

Today, I took my boyfriend's advice and finally stood up to my very passive-agressive, rude mother. What started in a conversation about her snide comment about my outfit ended in me needing to find somewhere else to live. FML
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jessroses 8

OP here So didn't expect this to make the front page but to clear up a few things I'm 19, my boyfriend also lives with his parents and I live away from home in a town about 2 hours away, but my usual hangout bar is in my hometown so on the weekends and holidays I come home and make use of the bed. So mostly I've moved out. We had gotten into a very loud row which turned into mum (for the umpteenth time) bringing up how I'm never home and what happened to the sweet little girl that told her everything. I've explained time and time again that I didn't have friends then and Now I'm balancing a social life in 2 places, and spending time with family, which I admit I haven't been spending as much time with her, because once I moved out I could see her from a distance and see how manipulative she is. I have also tried to see mum less and less because I thought that's just where my life was headed. Being the youngest child means it's difficult for mum to let go. However, I have been her punching bag for the past few years, always making passing comments about my weight (I am obese, as is she) and the clothes I wear. I came out as bisexual to her and she doesn't believe me because I have a boyfriend and told me to keep it from the rest of the family. So yeah, I'm trying to get out of the situation, but my boyfriends family are not doing well financially so I would rather not move in, as well as its a relatively new relationship (just under a year)

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Top comments

jlang917 14

It's probably better that you get out of that situation OP! Take this opportunity and try to find somewhere that you feel safer and better.

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booman342 13

Whether you like them or not, you just have to deal with what they say until you move out.

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Comments

Sathane 21

Sounds like a good deal. Why would you want to live with someone who obviously has no respect for you?

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vb68_fml 28

I know what you mean...it's probably for the good, away from her you will rebuild some self esteem. You have to make space from toxic people even when it is family...good luck

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Rain8899 5

I had the exact same problem with my mom 20yrs ago. My mom is still a psycho to this day. The best thing I did was find a way to move out. Call her bluff and get the he'll out. Moving out is scary, but it is no way near as bad as it is to put up with moms horse shit.

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rattyrayvn 21

Your boyfriend meant well but it's very easy to look at an abusive household and say "Just stand up for yourself!" I hope everything works out for you.

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CaityMandy 10

YDI because you should've thought that through

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zaidthunder1 27

I suppose you can move in with your boyfriend.

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Exsequor 14

I feel like it should be obvious that you don't speak your mind when you rely on that person for housing. She's ridiculous, but you still deserve it for doing that when you rely on her.

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thearronaut 10

Hope the boyfriend is willing to take you in!!!

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Axel5238 29

I go through the occasional passive aggressive comments with my mother, less now than previous. Best thing I would've advised is to make them aware of their actions, but not be a dick about it. If you are at the very least apologise that goes a long way in their mind. Also, I've found if you mention good things you are doing it gives them less ammo to come out you with and mention it once a month so they don't forget and are reminded of your self improvement. Unless regularly reminded these people tend to default back to their most vidid memory of you regardless of how long it's been.

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Overlord247 20

I know she's your mom, but she seems really toxic. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Maybe this is a good thing

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