Because it's always the kid(s)' fault? Parents aren't perfect, they can be rude, over reactionary people too, you know.

Some people have emotionally abusive parents. When you've lived your whole life or part of it being constantly belittled, been rude to, criticised constantly, never good enough, it's really hard to stand up to it. I don't think OP's boyfriend would have told her to say anything if he didn't think it was necessary ... Some people don't even realise that the relationship is abusive until someone from the outside makes them realise it is. So no, not all kids make situations escalate, parents can be at fault too.

sorry #24 I just unliked ur comment! didn't mean it. your comment is totally valid

I think it would be nice to know what was said and how it was said. I mean if op totally blew up on her mom and let all the years of bottled up anger out in one conversation while yelling, then I'd say that op went about it poorly. (Still doesn't deserve to be kicked out though). It's very difficult to tell someone that they're wrong or have bad behaviour or whatever and expect them to change. The only way to be affective in this type of a situation is to be very calm, let them know that their behaviour hurts you and how you feel about it, how you wish they would treat you instead, etc. If you start yelling at someone and berate them for their behaviour and whatever else, the only thing that's going to do is immediately get their back up, make them angry, and feel the need to defend themselves. So again, if op just yelled and freaked at her mom than I can see how the mom would react poorly and see it as a tantrum and lack of respect. Either way though she shouldn't be kicking you out over that one conversation and hopefully once the anger and need to defend has dissipated, she will go to bed and actually think about what was really said and how you really feel and try to make a change.

Jesus what an asshole you are

If someone has a horrible bitter mother, like mine, who calls you a "fat, useless ****", says you'll end up "having a baby before you're 18 and end up on government benefits" and constantly belittles and laughs at you, then I think people have every right to stick up for themselves. Emotional abuse in homes is real, just because it's their parents giving it, doesn't make less hurtful or gives you a reason to ignore it/suck it up; and before you say it, no, I wasn't a bold, naughty or spoilt child growing up and that I probably deserved it, no, it was quite the opposite actually and even if I was, no-one deserves to be spoken to in that way, regardless if it was their mother, the Pope or Barney the ******* Dinosaur. Get off your high horse.

thats bull