By Oops - 02/11/2009 01:43 - United States

Today, I was at a party and saw an old friend from college. I went up to her asking how she was and how her family was. She went on to tell me that her husband left her a month ago and started crying. I told her that he was an ass anyway and that she didn't need him. Turns out he died. FML
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ausathlete 0

Definitely a FML. Assuming "my husband left me" means a separation/divorce is pretty reasonable, it's what most people say in that situation. I've never heard anyone using that phrasing to describe the death of their partner. If somebody told me that their partner had left them, I'd automatically make the same assumption - as I think 95% of people would.

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greatnt249 0

Who the hell refers to a spouse's death as them "having left him/her"? She brought it on herself for saying it like that.

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2FrackinRight 0

Seriously, if people weren't so afraid of saying "So-and-So died" in the first place this wouldn't have happened. Even "passed away" is talking around it. I am sure you were embarrassed but folks need to learn to talk honestly about death.

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som_fml 0

why the hell would you say something like that anyway? That's just rude even if he DID dump her. That's like saying "Oh I knew it was going to happen, he was such an ass, and you were such an idiot for choosing him. Congratulations on coming back to the real world."

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Subjectzero 0

if she said "my husband left me" then you were in the rift to assume he walked out on her. she's stupid by not saying "he died"

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Lisa89 3

Saying 'he left me' implies that he walked out. She should have said 'passed away'. It was easy to make that mistake

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jonny2x4 0

Why is the guy automatically an ass because he "left her" when you've never even met him? Because you were being a typical simple-minded female and jumped to conclusions before getting all your facts straight. Feeling smart now?

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PoeticPixie 0

The OP was a man, genius. Read things before you make sexist comments. Sounds to me like you're a typical simple-minded male who believes the crap spewed in the 40's and 50's about how women should just stay home to feed their husbands and take care of kids. In the year 2009, more than 50% of jobs held by Americans are held by women. Who's simple-minded now asshole? And to the OP, that does suck, but you had no reason to say that. You may have just been trying to be friendly, but you were essentially telling her that YOU knew that she picked a crappy guy, and you don't know how she didn't see it before. I also get where the woman was coming from though. People, even if they're not overly close to the deceased, are so wary about saying someone died, for fear of seeming insensitive. When my friend's great aunt died, the nursing home she was in called in the middle of the night and told her that Adele wasn't with them anymore. When my friend was confused, the woman said "I'm sorry, but we've lost her" at which point, my friend started to panic, thinking they meant it literally. Her husband picked up the phone and said "I'm sorry, are you trying to tell us she's dead?" It seems insensitive, but all of the euphemisms people come up with for death are retarded. We didn't 'lose' anyone. I know exactly where he is. Society has just warped people's minds that death is something unable to be spoken about, even though it's a fact of life, no matter how sad it is. The moment we're born, we start dying.

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letitbe56 0

Pimpin, what happened to you to make you hate women so much?

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blastvortex 3

It's your friend's fault for getting her story wrong, not that it's surprising (it sounds like she was probably distraught and said the wrong thing). Don't feel bad about it.

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TheIrishJaneDoe 8

Anger is a stage of grief; it's common for the grieving to go through a period of blaming the dead for "leaving them." That doesn't make her a selfish cow who deserves to be alone. She was probably just too emotionally distraught to think straight. OP responded in a very natural, albeit embarassing, way.

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DefyingGravity 0

Why was she at a party? If MY husband died, I wouldn't be able to go to a social thing like that for a while...Especially if I was still that unstable.

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