By meltingturtle - 02/08/2016 03:25

Today, I was talking with my girlfriend. We both have family issues, so we'd agreed to open up to each other today. Turns out I'm dating my cousin. FML
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meltingturtle 24

OP here. Here's your follow up. My mom and her brother had a rocky relationship. She moved to the west coast some twenty years ago, and never talks about my uncle. I know of him, but never met him due to problems between them. I moved out of state for college, and met my girlfriend there. I'd only been told I had a cousin once, pretty much in passing. My gf and I were both talking, and she mentioned how her dad, named David, was bipolar and had several issues. I asked if she had any aunts or anything cause that sounded a hell of a lot like my estranged uncle my mom hardly talks about. She was all, 'yeah, but my dad never talks about her. Her name is Emily or something I think?' And I was like 'o shit that's my mom'. It was super awkward. I'd known my uncle had a daughter, and she knew her aunt had two. Thing is, I'm a trans boy who goes by a completely name, so we never really figured it out until now. Hope it makes more sense to y'all now.

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kusje 30

Hey, at least you have a lot in common with each other!

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Rababco 29

My mom's side of the family lives on the other side of the country (she moved away from her family and married my dad) and she doesn't get along with her family so I haven't met most of them.

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meltingturtle 24

#61- not sure how it's gonna turn out, frankly. I'm not related to her by blood, at least, so that's something. We've been dating almost 3 months now. I'm sure I won't end up marrying her or anything, as our relationship was never a super serious one. We'll probably drop the 'dating' label and just be good friends, basically doing all the same stuff we have been but far less romantic. Even if we're not blood-related it's still weird as hell to be dating your own cousin.

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xnemesis1981 15

There's not going to be any biological children given you're trans. So that cuts that issue out. Sounds like the first cousin thing is ugh for you - but it's so common for family member who never met to fall for each other unknowingly. Follow your heart, just don't let social expectations decide what your heart should feel.

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Sparx1_1 16

You are blood related - same grandparents

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DraconicFeline 31

Alright, I'm sure I'm in the minority on this, but here goes -- what the hell is so weird about dating someone you recently met, like, and have absolutely no blood relation with? I can understand cousin-relationships being weird if you've known them and thought of them as family all your life, but you just met this girl, and you obviously liked each other enough to start dating, so what's the problem now? This whole stigma we have against dating people who are related to you by law (and nothing else) is just bizarre to me. It's like suddenly breaking off your relationship with someone because your mother married their father and now all of a sudden you're siblings. The dynamic of your relationship hasn't changed. You're not even related by blood. The only possible repercussions to this are in your own head. Just my two cents.

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cocops8 4

Not saying that this is the same thing exactly but I have a friend who was in a slightly similar situation. My school is really small and a lot of the classes have every grade and my friend was a freshman at the time and there was this guy who was a senior. She totally had a crush on him and everyone knew it and she would get super embarrassed and flustered around him and he knew about it too. They appearently went to a dance together too but I'm not sure if it was a date or not. Either way it ended badly when my friend went to a family reunion and met her 3rd cousin. Guess who it was. I didn't even find out about it until late because, like most people, I thought she was kidding when she said they were cousins but when I found out next year I felt really bad for he and then started laughing at the situation because it was so rediculous but being 1st cousins in your case and officially dating is a bit of a different situation.

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MamaChey 24

Actually Mangascribbler, it is only illegal to marry your first cousin in 24 States. 19 States actually allow you to marry your cousin without restriction. You should probably check your facts before citing the law.

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