You realize there's probably local laws that prohibit additional children if there's not enough adults for supervision. If it's an actual day care, this is very common and the op is sounding like a self entitled person without checking to see if her bringing in an unaccounted child to a day care, without the proper legal requirements, to see if what she's asking could potentially cost her friend the business or severe fines. Some friend she is to her boss!

im going to assume and say that the OP was hired by the friend to go to the friend's house and watch their toddler there, which is why OP wanted to bring along her own toddler. and the friend us shady, OP should just look for another job before their friendship is put in jeopardy

33: You are talking from your anus.

Op just needs to hire herself to watch her kid. Then she could watch both and the friend couldn't say anything since she is just doing her job.

I run a daycare. In my state, at least, your own kids don't count towards the number of kids you can keep. And if the kids are from a small number of familes (3 for me), they will even waive the adult:kid ratio requirement. So if I have a cap of 8 kids solo, mine doesn't count and the fact that one of my familes has five kids means I keep 12 total, solo, on some days. It's so the parents of a large number of kids don't have to fight to have one kid at this care, two at this, three at this care and so on... it all depends on state laws, some day cares even offer free child care to employees.

Right but it's not the friend who's babysitting it's the OP which implies it's at a house not a daycare where OP wouldn't be employed

That doesn't matter the friend wants OP to babysit her kid but now instead of OP watching her own kid she has to hire a babysitter for her own kid and not spend time with them. If the friend doesn't want her kid there then she should find a different babysitter

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Sarcam my dear friend

if she's having her best friend babysit, this probably is not a legitimate business. it's not 'daycare providers'. it's babysitting.

Probably conflict of interests. OP would likely give her own child more attention. If I were paying someone to watch my child I would expect the amount I pay them to reflect the amount of 1 on 1 attention my child gets.

#59, do you have any idea what child care providers are paid? It's under minimum wage in most cases. In some cases, majorly under minimum wage. It's not a business people go into to make money, they do it because they like kids (or hate adults and have a problem with authority as is my case, no boss overhead and no annoying people! Plus I get to play all day!!). I don't make a killing, I make barely enough to cover bills. But I work with state assistance programs for low wage workers. My kids parents don't even pay out of pocket.

Eating two cakes with one spoon sounds better.

What if op's child bullies the other kid and so the employer doesn't want her around? Op could even be one of those moms who don't believe their child does anything wrong and doesn't discipline them

The flaw in that is that if the OP's friend felt that was the kind of parent she was, why would she want the OP to watch her own kid? If a person can be defined as having bad parenting skills than they wouldn't be a good babysitter either. The more likely thing is that the OP's friend just doesn't want the babysitter's attention divided between the two kids. Also in the event of something like a fire that required making such a choice who do you think the OP would be more likely to save? Their own kid or the kid that they were babysitting for a friend? I'm not saying it's right of the friend to refuse to let the OP bring her kid. I'm just saying there are possible reason's beyond "Your child is a bully" or "Your child is hell on Earth and you refuse to say a word to him"