By Sam - 04/03/2010 15:51 - United States

Today, I went out to eat with a group of couples and my boyfriend. All my friends boyfriends paid for them. Mine didn't, and said that I should order off the diet menu. FML
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Callyn 47

Why should he pay for you? Do you switch off paying? Do you not have a job? He was wrong in calling you fat, but you were wrong expecting him to pay for you.

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boatkicker 4

He doesn't have to pay for you, and unless he said he would, you shouldn't expect him to. But if he's not paying for you, then he doesn't get to decide what you eat. And it's certainly never polite to tell someone they should be on a diet.

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Batman4890 0

why? Because he isn't rich? And because the OP didn't include that she is a healthy weight so I'm going to assume that she is over weight. So why?

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Leilenah 0

What a rude boyfriend.

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miseleigh 0

YDI for expecting anyone (especially the man you claim to like enough to date) to pay your way. As for the diet thing... well, were you skinnier when you started dating? Are you letting yourself go because you're taking him for granted? H didn't handle it the right way, but if you're taking him for granted, it's good he said something rather than just deciding to leave you. (Shouldn't have said that in front of your friends though. Tell him that.) I'm actually upset that my fiance didn't say something to me about my increasing weight. That, to me, says he doesn't care about my body... and since my body and my mind are inseparable - they're both part of me - I started to feel like he didn't care about me. It's been interesting working through that.

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miseleigh 0

(Note there's a big difference between making someone's weight the important thing about them and saying 'honey, i want you around for a while. Is there anything I can do to help you be healthier', and a difference between 'i started dating you because i like women who can take care of themselves, is there something that's changed' vs 'you're fat, fix it now.')

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idkweird 0

Some guys don't care about weight. That's completely ok. If the relationship was only based on the physical, it wouldn't last. My boyfriend has dated girls smaller than me, and he has dated girls much larger than me. It's because to him, the personality/mind are what make a woman sexy. He has never told me I weigh too much, even though I do, currently. It's not that he doesn't care about me, it's quite the opposite. It's because he only wants me to be happy. If I'm happy with myself, than he's happy, too. It just makes me smile that there are people on the other side. Whereas, you have to work through something like that, that same situation is what's helping me work through the issues my ex helped implant. :) It's like we're total opposites, minus the great guy, lol :)

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TheElleWordlg 0

You should really think about seeking counseling asap. Could you be any more of an insecure, preachy, whiney b*tch? Seriously. Mayyybbbe she hasn't let herself go. Maybe her bf is a tactless douchebag who didn't have enough sense to tell her in private that he has a problem with her weight. And I'm sorry, please explain to me, why exactly is it your fiance's resposibility to regulate your weight? So instead of getting off your fat ass and doing something about it you decide to get upset with him and say you need to "work through" the fact that you feel betrayed that he didn't let you know what a cow you've become? What planet are you on? OP- I understand that you probably didn't EXPECT him to pay for you, but were more or less disappointed and maybe even a little embarassed that the "fine gentleman" you have chosen as your significant other did not display the same act of kindness as your friends boyfriends. You should never expect a man to pay. Nevertheless, in this particular situation he should have stepped up, been a man and treated you to dinner. Not doing so makes him a loser and you desperate for being with him. I don't even want to comment about what he said to you about dieting in front of your friends. Please, for your own sake get some self-esteem, dump this loser and find a man with some freaking couth.

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benen 0

yeah we don't need to know about your stupid baby mama drama just toughen up

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Nylok 0

Wahhhh I had to pay for my own food. Wow did you survive?

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asenchak84 0

ok so i am 5'6 and i weighed 135lbs and my boyfriend at the time told me i was fat and i needed to exercise i have spent the last 5 years having severve body weight issues there are weeks i hardly eat all bc my ex thought i was fat when i wasnt...so OP dump the asshole! you dont deserve the psychological damage its going to cause you can find a man who appreciates you for you!

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Physcomerk 0

no one wants to date you anyway. LOL

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Person1233 12

5' 6" and 135 lbs? Lose some weight you ******* eyescar.

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sosadrightnow 4

It seems like a lot of people don't like to go by old fashioned manners. It's a great thing when a guy pays for your meals. Expecting her boyfriend to have manners doesn't make her deserve it.

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blueeyes24 0

Your right old fashion manners are nice when they are offered. And sometimes it's very nice when my boyfriend pays for my meal and treats me. But I don't expect it from him and I try to treat him sometimes too. I would rather have him treat me as an equal and respect me then take care of me!

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tipoo_fml 0

You can't cherry pick with equality. Why should men be expected to pay?

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barksdalescott 11

"Manners" does not mean paying for her. It's not bad manners to expect her to pay for herself. Grow up.

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pogostick_fml 2

YDI, because you shouldn't expect him to pay for you. He has no obligation. I hate that some girls expect all their food and next season's wardrobe to be paid by their boyfriends. He works for his money, and he shouldn't have to feel obligated to spend it on you. Get a job (if you don't already have one) and support yourself. And FML, because he embarrassed you in front everyone. I don't think it's a big deal if he brings up your weight in a polite manner in private, but to publicly tell you to order off the diet menu is rude.

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TyMom 0

Well u r a dumbass for letting him do that to you!! so you definetly deserved it u idiot.. and that's not called a boyfriend that's called a moucher!!

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