If it had been a man though, everyone would act as if it's nothing. Not trying to ruffle any feathers, but if a man had been rubbing one out, everyone would be laughing and saying it's normal.

since when is rubbing one out to a picture classified as cheating? that would mean many, many relationships have one or both partners as 'cheaters' because they watch ****, & i dont think that is the case.

If she had been watching **** or looking at random strangers, this wouldn't be a big deal. This isn't necessarily a big deal either. Just because a person is in a relationship doesn't mean their sexuality turns off to everyone but their partner. They can still find others attractive and still fantasize about other people and it doesn't have to mean they have a desire to cheat on or leave their partner. Your wife saying "I want you" to the image of another guy was probably just part of a fantasy she was indulging in. And even if she DOES want this guy in reality, that doesn't have to mean she wants to or is going to cheat on you.

Ok why are so many quick to condemn this woman? Men wank to **** all the time and we consider it normal, so when a woman wanks off to a photo she's a cheater? She's fantasising, that is NOT the same as cheating...

Annnnnddd divorce. No way you should deal with that.

Sometimes fantasising about a taboo situation or person can be exciting, it might not necessarily be because she wants to cheat. I've been with my partner for 4 years and am very much in love but still fantasize about people I know or encounter. I would never ever do anything about it though.

Can the husband HONESTLY say that he hasn't watched **** or fantasized about another woman since marrying his wife? Yes, she IS in the wrong. Either gender doing this when in a life-long, committed relationship is wrong. Whether it is to some random person, or someone they know, they are lustfully looking at another living human and desiring them in ways their spouse wants to be desired by them.

Nice comments by all these dudebros and mysogynists in this thread. 99% of you ********** to ****, if not more. It's called "fantasizing." Don't pretend you don't do it. And I know you don't pretend to look at other women. The baseball bat comment was beyond the pale, especially after the tragedy.

Atleast **** you don't know the person in real life but someone's Facebook photo that is just wrong

Dump the *****. Shes not worth the pain bro