By kkiv - 29/08/2009 07:21 - Poland
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I don't really have the patience to answer every single comment, let me just say: - to those of you who say I'm stupid/naive for thinking he might care about me this time: he invited me. it was official. the wedding was small, and I'm not sure he even distributed any sort of invitations on paper. of course it's impossible to sum up 21 years of a father-daughter relationship in one FML post, so I wrote that he didn't really care about me, because that's the overall leitmotif. - to those who say I should get over it et cetera - I am over it. you should have seen me when it happened, I just shook my head, put on a bitter smile and told my mother he didn't call, surprise surprise. the reason I posted this here was that just because I'm over it, and just because I'm used to having a shitty father, doesn't mean it's alright and natural. plus it had a comical accent to it, which I'm surprised nobody caught. guess it's my Polish sense of humour. and yes, I am turning the other cheek, and when he calls, I answer, and when he offers to meet, I agree. not because I'm naive, and not because I'm some sort of martyr - sometimes even I don't know why I keep giving him one chance after another. I just don't really see any sense in me ignoring him, or getting back at him, or anything of that sort, it's just not my way of thinking. and to be honest, I do laugh about it sometimes. yes, my father is an asshole, he's a selfish prick and doesn't deserve to have kids, but like my mother said: - well, honey, what can I say? he was really handsome, AND on the basketball team. and just look at how pretty you are..!
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I don't really have the patience to answer every single comment, let me just say: - to those of you who say I'm stupid/naive for thinking he might care about me this time: he invited me. it was official. the wedding was small, and I'm not sure he even distributed any sort of invitations on paper. of course it's impossible to sum up 21 years of a father-daughter relationship in one FML post, so I wrote that he didn't really care about me, because that's the overall leitmotif. - to those who say I should get over it et cetera - I am over it. you should have seen me when it happened, I just shook my head, put on a bitter smile and told my mother he didn't call, surprise surprise. the reason I posted this here was that just because I'm over it, and just because I'm used to having a shitty father, doesn't mean it's alright and natural. plus it had a comical accent to it, which I'm surprised nobody caught. guess it's my Polish sense of humour. and yes, I am turning the other cheek, and when he calls, I answer, and when he offers to meet, I agree. not because I'm naive, and not because I'm some sort of martyr - sometimes even I don't know why I keep giving him one chance after another. I just don't really see any sense in me ignoring him, or getting back at him, or anything of that sort, it's just not my way of thinking. and to be honest, I do laugh about it sometimes. yes, my father is an asshole, he's a selfish prick and doesn't deserve to have kids, but like my mother said: - well, honey, what can I say? he was really handsome, AND on the basketball team. and just look at how pretty you are..!
Sorry to hear that shit OP. But if he doesn't want you to be there, **** IT! Start a new life and forget is lazy ass. I know he's your father, but if he doesn't act like a father why would you take the time for him. Good luck.
Dick move.
im sorry to hear that. but i understood your Polish sense of humor. fathers a dicks and some dont deserve to be fathers. and too everyone else. if you read what she said, shes over it. it was a wake up call. she was just trying to be lyke OH loook my father just proved to me once again he doesnt care. what else is new.
Op, Girl, you don't have to justify your fml to anyone. If you felt it was fml worthy, and it made it onto the website through moderation, then yes, it's an fml if you want it to be. And no one has the right to tell you to quit complaining... it's FML... that's what you're supposed to do. Analbottleopener, you said, "This is enough stupid posts." When you posted more to this fml than ANYONE, including the op, the one who wrote it. I completely agree with your #79 post to #38... #38, you're a bitter jerk. Like Analbottleopener said, you used someone else's pain to prover how strong you are. Lets make it all about you! Geeze! It's obvious you spend your time feeling sorry for yourself... even your screen name is "my_life_is_fd." You're probably a spoiled child that didn't get their way so now you hate your dad. Just be glad he's even in your life. And I'm sure you have NO idea what it would be like to have your life be "fd." Grow up or go back to Jr. high. #49, you are totally rude. Not to mention a complete idiot. Everyone else on here thinks so too which is why your stupid comment got burried. #20 is right... op, it's HIS loss... not yours. #21, you are a complete and total DOUCHE BAG. In something as important as a wedding, most people want their loved ones there. Just because she wanted to go, and was sad he didn't remember, doesn't mean she wanted his wedding to revolve around her. He forgot to call his only daughter on one of the most important days of his life. That's something to be sad about. You are rude and insensitive. Op, you keep your head high. You are at the best university in the country. You sound level headed and smart. You're gonna go far in life with your attitude. You aren't naïve, when your dad calls, let him in if you want, and if not then let in the man that your mother is in a wonderful relationship with, the man that you admire and respect. Always remember your Heavenly Father loves you unconditionally.
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Ouch, I'm sorry.
That's one bitch of a dad.