It's better to find out now. It's better to know before than after the wedding. He has control issues and you need to stop the wedding. He won't get better only worse. Married 22 plus years and it was horrible.

Sounds like he's always had this issue if he's checking your phone. Unless you showed him the text in which case he should have trusted you because you wouldn't have showed it to him if you were cheating

not a good start for u Op.. trust issues may create panic later

Might be a good thing it happened before the wedding. This sounds like some serious trust issues he's got and you might be better off without him. Anyway, it must be very difficult for you :/ Good luck.

Wow. Those are some major red flags. I'd say you dodged a bullet there.

I agree with the other posters about him having trust issues, but to my mind that's not the problem. What I see as the problem is the way he's threatening you into disclosing the numbers. If he just asked for the numbers or said he was concerned then that would be simple trust issues and there would be room for a reasonable conversation. Instead he's moved straight to threats and an exercise of power. What he's threatening is not simply cancelling the wedding, but the humiliation that would cause you in the eyes of your friends and family. If this is how he reacts BEFORE he has control over your joint accounts/children/pets/etc. then I'd humbly suggest that you are not dealing with someone who simply has trust issues, but also with someone who has an abusive personality. I know this may be hard to hear, but my sincere advice is to cancel the wedding yourself, cancel the lease and dump him. The sort of person who would publicly humiliate you over a simple text to the wrong number is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. A final thought. Have you contemplated the possibility (as paranoid as this may sound) that HE sent the text from a friend's phone or a pre-paid phone? Given the level of abusive behavior he's showing I would not put it past this sort of individual to engineer this sort of situation in order to simply exercise control and beat you down.

I bet everyone saying "wow don't marry him if he does not trust you" has had trust issues because lets face it some people are ******* idiots and will hurt someone else now I do think he went over board with the whole cancel the marriage but if there is a past with you getting strange texts and all that then maybe he is just looking out for himself

He's cheating on you.

I'm glad you know this crazy now. Red flags are flying high. This person sounds like he maybe just a tad controlling. If he does not trust you over a single wrong text my guess is this is an excuse to start saying who you can and can't talk to and watching you all the time. I would really think hard about if you should be the one cancelling everything. Good luck OP you deserve better than this.

Take it from someone who's been there - RUN, don't walk, RUN away from this person.