finally a decent first post from someone

yeah I hate it when people are like FIRST! it's kinda annyoing.

by we do u mean 50/50 or did he put down all the cash?

that's sucks it wouldve been okay if he was bangin a hooker but a missed connection? u are abviously plan b chick .fyl

Whenever someone posts "FIRST!" I send out my cousin to grab the guy and force him to eat regurgatated vanilla-flavored pig genitals and chocolate skittles. This has never failed me.

well, it could just be a friend, or a half sister or something. don't jump to conclusions.

This is getting repetative. 97: A missed connection ad is a type of personal ad. It was created for strangers to find people that they didn't really know.

now that, sucks ass

sounds like a lawsuit to me. $$$$

Internet dating is for losers

OP, money is only money and can be earned/replaced again. However, time is something that you can't back. Consider yourself lucky for finding out before you actually married this guy and just walk away now. Clearly, the two of you have different opinions on what the commitment level of your relationship should be. So, don't waist anymore of your precious time on him!

FIRST!!!!!!

147, I agree with you!

why is this fml up twice, only a few fml apart

This guy is clearly an asshole and doesn't deserve you!! I would throw an I'm finally rid of the bastard party at the reception hall!!

I was just going to say that too. She makes it seem she cares more about the non-refundable reception.

I don't think the money is her main concern....It's more like the icing on the cake.

Sometimes, it's easier to focus on being angry about the loss of money instead of dwelling on the fact that the guy you thought you were going to marry just broke your heart. Even though I broke my engagement off, it was still something so incredibly devastating to me. It was definitely easier to focus on figuring out if we could get any money back or use it some other way instead of focusing on the fact that my relationship had just ended.

I agree, she did put the cheating part first and the $$$ part last.

yeah I see your point. I think it's just odd she included that fact in the FML. eh, I'm overthinking it I guess. :)

I know! Use the reception site for a "Newly Single" party to celebrate getting rid of him. Tell all your girl friends to come and bring all their single guy friends. Then you'll see that there are plenty more fish in the sea and have plenty to flirt with. At least you found out now and not after the wedding.

You better believe that after my ex and I called it off, I told everyone that not only was he a douchebag, but my mother and I lost a ton of money because he couldn't figure it out sooner, lol. It was, by far, the best decision I ever made, but I felt I was allowed to be bitter about things, lol. He hadn't put a dime into it, and 300 for the photographer was kind of a LOT for me to put down at the time. I have a feeling the OP worked hard for her part of the money put in.

#32: Haha, I mentioned something like that below! Except mine was a "Thank God I Didn't Get Married" party :)

Mercy, if you were referring to mine, it was a blast! There were copious amounts of alcohol and great friends! Those people got me through some hard times, lol.

iskeierd- nothing wrong with it, but dang! you make some pretty long comments

idkeierd*

wow, failed on my attempt to patch a fail idkwierd*

Haha, nice! Yeah, I tend to be long-winded, or something. I never intend them to get as long as they do, lol!

that's what I'd do :)

unless they live together

umm..usually the guy asks the girl to marry him, not other way around!

obviously you will never be with that person you can't live without

I want to call you a ****. ..........But that's just an insult to vaginas.

So you're a ****? I'm confused..what's happening here?

Well said, Bro!

42 and 59 -- you two made me chuckle :)

If you don't understand an insult as direct as that then your IQ is probably the same as your shoe size. I can't help you, I'm not qualified to handle mentally challenged individuals.

Hey you... this cat n mouse we've been playing is getting old. Let's just go wild on each other... you game?

I don't date retards who use women the way you suggest. Eat shit and die. BTW I like girls, you have no chance.... EVER

Nice. Threesome, I'm down.

I will clarify since you're too stupid to take no for an answer; I only have sex with women, you're not invited, EVER.

lol snicks. such win here

I kind of love you. but not in a creepy way. you just rocked this. that's all

I meant to the girl arguing back btw

#75 In other words " I surrender" haha

Deposit on a wedding reception is MUCH cheaper than a divorce

I try my hardest.

listen to 13 and have that partyy!! :D

men lie women lie. if he didn't actually go out there and cheat is it worth calling it quits? actions speak louder than words. who does he come home to?

#35: It says he was making plans to go out with her. Personally, the exchanging of pictures, emails, and making plans to go out with her are, in fact, enough. Is she supposed to continue until he actually follows through? In that type of situation, in my opinion, the intent is already there. Also, to me, I'd already put that in the cheating category. Though they didn't get to the physical part before she found out, it was definitely headed that way. The emailing/exchanging photos/making plans to meet, online, is kind of like going on dates, IRL. It may not be serious, but he was still checking out other options when he is supposed to be commited to marrying the OP

Good point #35. Is there any proof that he cheated? Maybe she's just an old friend from high school that he's catching up with. You need much more proof before destroying a relationship. perhaps you're the one with cold feet and this your way out.

#43: It was an online "missed connections" post he had responded to. That makes it obvious that she wasn't some friend he had known before. Also, character length restrictions prevent more info from being added.

I'm wasn't 100% sure what "missed connection" is. It sounded like something you'd hear from classmates.com or something like that. Is that a dating service? if so than I digress!

It's like a personal ad where the person is saying they saw someone and that they want to get to know them better. Here's an example I found in an article: "On the N/W train Monday evening. You: Attractive, 30ish, brown hair, soft smile, standing and holding the pole. Me: Black coat and black bag. You saw me smile at you - I looked away. I wish I hadn't. Would love to talk to you - please write soon." Included in the post is an anonymous e-mail address people can reply to. Posters often seem shy, or for some unfortunate reason fail to get (or keep) contact information"

I see....my bad! That is definitely considered cheating, then.

I don't think op is only upset about the deposit, but I'd be pissed too if I just lost $ on an asshole!

Umm I don't think that's what she meant... I think the cost of the reception was just more of a "to top it all off" point.