By Groomzilla? - 28/04/2015 05:32 - Canada - Niagara Falls

Today, less than a month from our wedding, my fiancé told me that he doesn't trust me and will be cancelling our wedding and new apartment lease if I don't give him all the names, numbers and addresses of my exes. All because I received a text from a wrong number that said, "Hey baby." FML
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That's a bit ridiculous. Does he not realize accidents happen?

That is unhealthy lack of trust. If he is that immature or paranoid, maybe it is better if you didn't get married

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Signs of impending doom ahead. Cut and Run...

Idk marriage is a serious thing, and talking from a guy that's been seriously burned, there's no way to tell if ur girl is using wrong number as an excuse or rly a wrong number. All I'm saying is, yea it sounds like a crazy request but if u love him and want to start your new life with no doubts, i say comply with what he asks, and he'll do the same when the time comes.

dposspan 11

If you're still having these kind of trust issues, you have absolutely NO business getting married. A successful marriage is built on trust for your spouse, not on fear that they'll repeat something that an ex once did years ago.

No. A relationship needs trust to function. To have concerns is one thing, but to demand the full contact info for every ex is unreasonable and not even helpful. She could lie about who her ex's are. She could meet someone new and cheat with him. She could pick up random one night stands with homeless people under a bridge. In the end, there's no way to be 100% sure someone isn't cheating. You have to trust them. Sometimes that goes wrong, but you have to take that risk. I'm not saying be completely blind when something is clearly wrong, but a single text message doesn't merit such paranoia on his or anyone's part. If you feel the need to get the contact info for everyone someone has dated previously, you clearly don't trust that person and shouldn't be with them.

dannnngthatsux 19

Don't do it. I'm a jealous husband and I know that's beyond healthy, beyond just sick. Shoot makes me look like a trusting four year old. If you can't reason with him that it's ridiculous, and maybe even if you can, then chuck him. I love my wife but if she pulled that 'gimme their numbers' crap she'd be gone. There are 7 billion people on the world, being unhappy isn't worth it.

ViviMage 38

Ok, I only have 2, and I don't know their current addresses and phones. Throw the number up in Google and do a search.

I was thinking the exact same thing. I have no idea what my ex's phone numbers are or where they live. In fact, all of my ex's are married now and almost all have kids as well.

Our insecurities are a reflection of one self At times

It sounds like he has some trust issues. It's not your fault, it's his problem and he needs to work that out with himself. It isn't fair for him to push blame onto you when he's the one with an issue.

Wow he really doesn't trust you then.

I don't know how this marriage will go