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Move to a different country. Let's see them follow you now.
No, Mom, this will not be a good week/weekend to visit. I will be busy for the next few weeks. Let me call you and let you know when I have time. Thanks.
That's partially on you. You need to make it clear that they can't do that.
This is why I moved out of state
lock your door, DONT ANSWER IT!! YOU have trained them its ok to visit like this, YES YOU!! you will have to deal with it later but be honest with them, this is their need to be in your life not yours. Tell them you love them but are being suffocated. Tell them when they can visit in advance and stick to it no matter what they say. the other commenters say make an excuse, won't help, Write down what you want to say and do not let them speak while you are talking, Once you have trained them you can move back to your home city and not be worried they will barge in.
I don't think OP "trained them" ?? They're parents, not dogs. I think if they were able to raise a kid, they should be able to think their kid is now an adult and that it's not okay to keep wanting to be around all the time. No matter how long OP let's them stay over each time. She just needs to tell her parents that she is starting her own life now and she doesn't need them that much anymore.
Everyone that keeps making these comments are about their parents is just sad. Sure of course there are some abusive parents out there, but just because they nag you it doesn't make them abusive. They're your parents, when you were a child and kept them awake for days at a time because you were sick they didn't complain. They literally wiped your bottom because you didn't know how. Don't use the sharpness of your tongue on the one that taught you how to use it. Seeing your mum every few months is too much?! Has it really come to that, where your wife or your girlfriend you can see everyday and be happy. Hang out with your mates every other day, but seeing your parents has become a great hassle and disruption to your life? Again I know that isn't that case for everyone and some parents do really need to be taken away from their kids. But I highly doubt that it is the reason for every single person that complains on this earth.
every few months would indeed be fine with most people. OP was getting their third visit in just 2 weeks... there's a big difference. and personally speaking, my parents aren't really abusive but my mom and I historically don't get along and bicker a lot... so I need my personal space or else I'd do the same thing OP did and move 5 hours away ..OR more.. to get away. With space being given however, my mom and I enjoy a healthier relationship since my needy child days. Plus I wouldnt be nearly as independent as I am if my parent helicoptered post childhood. So it's not really people hating their parents as much as really valuing their independence and making their own life as an individual rather than just a unit in an immediate family. Also people with bad relationships with their parents are probably (don't quote me on this) on the Internet more (on average) due to teenage escape habits so you'll probably see a slightly exaggerated rate of abuse on popular place on the Internet. don't take it too close to heart.
I really hate hearing the "your parents raised you so do what they ask" excuse. We are adults now and we have every right to decide the nature and context of our relationships... especially if they are negative or toxic. My mother is incessantly negative and talks for hours about herself and gives no consideration for anyone around her. I don't like being around that, so I keep my distance. I've confronted her about this, but she made it all my fault. So screw that.
Gee I wish my parents visited me that often
Many people do not have parents to complain about. You should consider the fact that you are lucky enough to have panders, let alone parents who care about your well being. Sure they annoy you now, but there will be a time when you would give anything to have them there with you.
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It's the 14th, which means OP's parents have visited three times in two weeks. That's ridiculous, especially since they live 5 hours away. It's totally reasonable that OP is burnt out and irritated. OP, you need some boundaries. Establish how often you feel comfortable with them visiting, tell them and stick to it.
That actually blows, I feel you dude. Even worse is when they whine about you never coming to visit. Lately I've just had to use the "too much work/schoolwork" excuse. Good luck to ya, sorry to hear