It's almost like OP's mother- in-law was trying to sabotage her efforts on purpose.

To those saying that the scare tactics are wrong. guess what? My parents used fear as motivation when I was a child, and I don't have any behavioral problems or irrational fears. Do you know why? That's what happens when you grow up.

Sorry your MIL sucks OP. Well dishes for you and the kiddo on you all' potty training adventure.

Just know everyone is different we dont all act / respond to things the same way

Sit your daughter down and tell her she did a good job by telling someone when she needed to go potty and that what her grandma did was wrong. At 2 she should be able to understand if you just explain.

That just reminds me of the time my dad an I were left in charge of his friend's 2-year-old. Except she came up to us after using the potty and proudly announced it to us, then led us to said potty... where we saw the bowl had not been replaced and she'd crapped straight on the carpet.

Also, just throwing it out there: when my parents were potty training my brother, they just had him walk around the house without a diaper on. Then, when he voided, instead of just going in his diaper and not thinking about it, he would immediately see the result. Apparently it was quite effective. The only reason they didn't do the same thing with me is because the house he was in had linoleum, but by the time I came along they'd moved to a place with carpets.

#39 Living in perpetual stress because you're going to be punished for something you can't always control is kind of bad for a child. It would even be bad for a fully grown adult anyway. How will you fix it if you actually have a kid who's got a problem ? With that tactic you're going to find it out the hard way. When your kid is 15 and still unable to stay alone, afraid of the dark, or irrationally scared by everything. My father did that because "a good scare is not bad" now my 17 years old brother panicks when my mother is 10 minutes late. Because he was 3 years old and my father told him "mom isn't going to come back home if you don't do this or that". Because between 2 and 4 years old is a very important part of a child's brain development, that's the best time to teach them because the thing a kid learns during that time stays in their mind forever, that's also the age where phobias can be creates by traumatic experiences. Resulting in a grown 17 years old guy in constant fear a family member will disappear. How's that for a good and harmless tactic ?

Wow, that was rude of her. I would have let her clean up, too. I hope your daughter learns soon, OP!

Stupid idiot mother in law. I hope you let her know what's up