She probably just didn't want to take time out of whatever she was doing to take your child to the bathroom. Tell her to stop being a lazy bitch and help next time.

I did this during a final once. Where will you be when diarrhea strikes ?

Yes, because punishing a child for the fact that an adult wouldn't help her is totally rational... 9, please never have children. The poor things will never make it with an idiot like you for a parent.

The little one wanted to go to the toilet. She understands where she has to go, it's the adult in the picture who needs to be set straight.

As a consolation you can tell yourself that fully training your toddler will go waaaay faster than trying to educate your mother-in-law into any sort of nice manners.

That is terrible and I would be furious if someone did that to my child, whether they were family or not. A kid needs to be helped when learning these basic skills, with constant reinforcement and assistance. On top of that, this is also a basic need. When a kid says they have to go to the bathroom, they usually have to go, it's unhealthy to make them hold it. Also, it's incredibly confusing for young kids when someone invalidates their clearly real alert system and urgency for their bodily functions, it's basically saying that how their body is feeling is wrong and that they shouldn't listen to it.

Keep your mother in law away from your kid. If she even can't help her own granddaughter with the potty why should she even see her granddaughter at all.

I remember when my sister was little, my grandma also said something to the effect of "no you don't" to my sisters request to go potty and my sister replied with "Trust me, I need to go." My mom was furious that her mother didn't take my sisters word for it.

Your mother in law in a ****

I've always heard take the child if they say they have to go, whether they actually go or not. It's best to go each time and reward them when they go than doubt and 1. End up with accidents 2. Screw up training like this.