Having a baby is not always a good reason to get married

What if he can't marry her because he's too busy taking his wife out for her birthday dinner? :P

#50, having a baby without being married is almost always a terrible idea. #51, the three ought to be dining together planning their polygamous colony. I hope this idea is more popular today than it was yesterday.

I dont know perdix... You can be commited to someone without a state paper to back it up. My lady and I are not "married" in the legal sense. We had a beautiful baby girl last year and I never once thought she wasn't my daughter, little girl had me wrapped from day one. This idiot will hopefully see the error in judgement one day as long as OP hasen't given him a reason to think otherwise.. If not, he needs to man up and take care of that potato.

#82, sounds good in theory, but once you hit a rough patch with your old lady, you can take off like a free bird. That "piece of paper" gives the state the right to disembowel you in case you try to run out. Marriage is more for children than anything else.

92, so what about those of us who want to get married but do not want to have children? In my experience - not personal, but immediate family - getting married ONLY because you're having a baby leads to more heartache later on.

You do not need to be married to be committed to another human being. I know gay couples who have been together 30 years and only just got the right to marry their partners. I know married people who have lasted a year because they rushed into something they did not respect. As long as the couple (married or not) takes the right legal channels to make sure their children/partners are taken care of, there is no need to have a piece of paper saying you're married.

#127, it's a bonanza for the spouse with the lower income and a screwing for the spouse with the higher income.

#131, "legal channels" are pieces of paper that are expensive and difficult to get. Marriage is a cheap and easy way to give children a better chance of having a two-parent home. It's not a guarantee, but divorce is enough disincentive for many people to stay together unless it's unbearable. This society runs on "pieces of paper." Diplomas, deeds, titles, contracts, currency, IDs, the Constitution, etc. are all just pieces of paper we all need to get through life. Just because gay people have been unfairly discriminated against in the past (and even mostly today in most states), doesn't diminish the importance of marriage for men and women.

my boyfriend and I have a baby and we are perfectly content not being married yet. Marriage because of a baby isn't always the best choice...

#140, yes, it is. If he leaves, it will be much harder to get him to support his child. He's ******* you over by not making it official, and counting on your naive optimism.

I sware there's more than one person on Perdix's account.....

My sons looked more like really, really, old aliens.

Baaaahahaha yesssss.

Some babies do come out looking super cute, not all are discolored wrinkly shriveled looking things but a lot yes.. Think it's a lot more premie look tho to be like that. I think naked mole rat is more accurate tho. I've never been able to connect the potato to newborn imagery people often use.

I have never in my life seen cute newborn. Their heads are cone shaped, they are splotchy, possibly blue, and barely passable as human. I haaaaate people whose first instinct is to put their still bloody newborn pic on Facebook. no, my child will not be an exception because I am never having one. Ew

my son looked like a baby but with a cone head. he was early and have none of thr baby fat rolls and wrinkly skin that newborna usually have he still kind of looked like an old man.