As a woman who has met men on the net. 1st meeting is ALWAYS in a public place. Any traveling is 50% for each. Like a location at the 1/2 way point. If you have an I phone you can let someone see your exact location at all times. DO this! Don't drink booze at the 1st meeting, too easy to get roofied (another reason for anyone to know ALL the details) make sure you have forwarded someone all his contact details the addresses your itinerary... Have check in points during your commute to get there. When you get there and frequently. Even if it is a basic code word that communicates it's you. This is a serious red flag that he is putting requirements on how you spend your money. I personally recommend putting off getting together until it's 50-50 for the spending. Maybe just skype for now.

Never date someone who won't put in as much effort into the relationship as you. It should be equal and balanced. If he pays for a date, you should pay for the next. Of course I'm not saying people who don't work shouldn't date. I hope you can get things straightened out or if not then I hope you will meet someone who will treat you nicely.

Wait.....he's your boyfriend but you haven't met him yet?

Op.... It sounds like you swallowed hook, line, and sinker..... You found a smooth talker, with no job... I hope you follow the advise of those who comment... Public place.....groups.. Safety is in numbers....you're setting yourself up for a fatal attraction

Run run run run.. RUN. This type of person is trouble.

Tell him the old ones "Beggers can't be choosers", and he will get what he pays for with YOU, not the room!

Sounds like a guy I dated in Colorado. He was a teacher, didn't work during the summer so he could pay, same thing, high taste, lots of excuses. Turns out I wasn't his only girlfriend! Red flag for sure.

That would be a sign that you need to ditch the lose and find someone with realistic expectations and a way to support themselves.

ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnn!

You can do so much better than that loser. Red flags up big time. And who is he to be saying he will only be comfortable in a 4 star hotel but can't pay for it?! Please he lost his mind. Tell him to go get a job and then find someone who will really be worth your time and has something going for themselves and will show you that. Please leave that potential disaster and danger alone and don't look back. You will thank yourself. Also your safety comes first so don't be going to meet anyone alone. Your first in person meeting should be in a public place where there are many people around. Also you should have your own room because you don't know a person you never met in person like that to be that comfortable in the same room. Please save yourself the headache and disaster waiting to happen and cut your losses now. Know that you deserve so much better than that nonsense.