By Anonymous - 13/10/2014 17:03 - United Kingdom

Today, my boyfriend decided he's asexual and dumped me on the spot. FML
I agree, your life sucks 41 520
You deserved it 4 894

Same thing different taste

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garage_fml 18

I mean, yeah, it does suck to be dumped, but if he's really asexual there's not much you can do. Sorry, OP.

Being asexual doesn't necessarily mean that you don't want to be in a romantic relationship. It just means that you have no desire to ever have sex. Plenty of asexuals go on to have healthy sexless romantic relationships. Unless he is aromantic as well (he has no desire to have romantic relationships) or he felt that a sexless relationship would be unfair to you it kinda sounds like he was just looking for an excuse

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Asexual means you reproduce by building up body mass over time then splitting into two separate organisms.

I am starting to get seriously annoyed by all these cretins who don't know what the other definition of asexuality is.

It's not possible for a human to be asexual

Now that is a breakup line I haven't heard. Kudos to him for originality, sad for you.

For someone who identifies as asexual, this is really offensive. We can have romantic feelings, we just have no interest in the sexual aspect of a relationship. Be glad he's your ex. He's a dick.

So you're a normal person who doesn't like sex. Why label it? It just makes you stand out and opens you up to being bullied for it. When starting a relationship just tell them you don't want sex and if its a problem they shouldn't continue courting you. Todays society insists on putting everything in nice neat niches. Most people rarely fit 100% with these labels. Rather than being gay, lesbian or other people should introduce themselves and have a nice chat about what they are interested in for a partner and a relationship. Identifing as a label purposefully makes you a target. I don't say Im straight I ask out women though and if i was gay I'd walk up to a guy and say hey I think you're hot want go out. and if they didn't they should say Im not their type.

P.s. more power to you if you don't need sex. P.p.s. You LGBT people are very brave and keep doing what makes you happy!

_awwhellnaw_ 45

Hi! I'm an asexual person and I'd like to talk about why you are a dick! "So you're a normal person who doesn't like sex. Why label it?" Asexuality is all about not having a sexual attraction! This means, I don't look at people and think, "Wow! I'd have sex with you!" Many asexuals are also sex-repulsed, meaning the thought of sex repulses them! I suppose you could say it's #Gross! "It just makes you stand out and opens you up to being bullied for it." Yes! It does make me stand out! Asexuals currently make up 1% of the population! As for bullying, the only I've experienced has been from family and friends who don't understand and make off comments, or from an ex-boyfriend who tried to make me feel uncomfortable. It's hard making up 1% of the population, but it's part of who we are and we can't help that! Often, we only come out to people we want to come out to! This means, a lot of people don't know! "When starting a relationship just tell them you don't want sex and if its a problem they shouldn't continue courting you." That would be coming out as asexual to that person! "Todays society insists on putting everything in nice neat niches." By giving us a name, asexuals can talk and become friends, or even date! They can get together and share their experiences, which differ to allosexuals! "Most people rarely fit 100% with these labels." While true, the LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, transgender, queer, intersex, and asexual) community know that sexuality is fluid. Besides, we're all trying to find where we fit, anway! "Rather than being gay, lesbian or other people should introduce themselves and have a nice chat about what they are interested in for a partner and a relationship." Like many people of the LGBTQIA community, I don't walk up to someone, shake their hand and say, "Hi! I like (insert gender(s) here)!" We are like straight people in that we have communication skills and can speak to people of any gender without bringing up our sexuality! I've made a few friends who don't know my sexuality, and that's a-okay! "Identifing as a label purposefully makes you a target." How wrong you are, friend! Identifying as a label means that we can talk to others who identify as the same label. But, I suppose that if you think that, you can stop identifying as heterosexual, cisgender, and male, because by doing so, you're putting a target on your back!

OHHH! Just figured out what asexual means.

One way or another he doesnt want to be with you. You're better off.

I love how the only thing you guys care about is sex. I'm asexual and my boyfriend and I have been together a very happy three years. That guy is an ass and you do deserve better, because that's not an excuse to dump somebody.

Well to be fair, if OP is a particularly sexual person and her boyfriend had no desire for sex at all, I can see how that would put a big strain on the relationship. But if OP was willing to accept not having sex then I agree that there was no reason for him to break up with her

My boyfriend is a sexual person, we deal with it. It was a poor excuse.

Well it's great that you manage to deal with it but obviously not all relationships are the same. For some relationships, sex is quite important. If my boyfriend told me he never wanted to do anything sexual again I doubt I'd be able to stay in the relationship for a very long time- of course I'd want to, but I think it would just put too much of a strain on me. It's awesome that you and your boyfriend can manage, but surely it's understandable that other people might not be able to

Consider talking and with and maybe having a close mutual friend act as a sex buddy. One gets sex and they both get the relationship. Its a risky move but as long as there is mutual respect and love it should lessen the strain.