By Raven3434 - 27/09/2009 18:33 - United States

Today, my boyfriend found out that he has kidney failure. He was feeling sick for a few weeks and I had told him to drink lots of fluids and eat vegetables. Apparently that is really bad for kidney patients. I was killing him with water and spinach salads. FML
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Raven3434 0

Just to put it out there, he had complete kidney failure. He is now on dialysis. His kidneys are toast and he needs a transplant. Apparently it was caused by years of high blood pressure. His kidneys were in trouble before we even met. And I had been encouraging him to go to the doctor. He had seen a few doctors, but nobody diagnosed him until his lungs were full of fluid. He can't drink too much fluid because he can't get rid of it without dialysis. He cant eat too many fruits or vegetables because he can't process out the extra phosphate and potassium. He also has to limit his sodium, but that wasn't part of my original post. Just wanted to clarify things. Thanks to all of you out there who offered support. Its been a really hard time.

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rhythmbandit 0

it not your fault, in normal circumstances, that's a good thing

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Incubuss 0

You must feel like shit. FYL. But it's not your fault.

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cmac86 23

ydi for (I'm assuming here) being a vegitarian.

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nophone 0

actually the FML is wrong...I have a genetic kidney disease, if his doctor told him not to drink water that doctor is a complete idiot, people with kidney problems should drink lots of water. F your life because the doctor you brought your boyfriend to sucks

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greatnt249 0

It depends on the nature of the disease, #53.

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wolfe37 0

actually a lot of people with kidney problems are supposed to limit there water because their body can't excrete it...i don't know what you have??

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LadyMedic 0

Patients with Kidney Failure need to watch their phosphates especially (among other things). Anyone who has been in a dialysis center sees these signs EVERYWHERE. But he's not on dialysis, obviously. And because he is not, water and veggies are fine, and are encouraged. At his stage, the concern is too much protein. Not water and vegetables. This FML sounds great in theory, but I call fake. And the concern isn't developing stones, it's the impaired kidney function overall.

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wolfe37 0

i don't really agree to this....water is not really encouraged from all the experience i've encountered

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lonewolf999 1

Next time, do research correctly before offering suggestions.

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T6DriverKEND 0

dtp882, so here is someone from your generation telling you to grow up and shut your mouth. Its pretty evident that no one here values your opinion, regardless of how awesome you may be at...high school.

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KelMarCos 3

If you're not a doctor don't be giving medical advice. You could have at least used webmd.

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auntycj 0

Seriously?!? Suggesting that your BF eat healthy food and drink more water is not exactly medical advice... More like motherly advice.

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MiyukiSnow 0

Actually water and veggies are never discouraged with kidney problems. My brother has only one kidney and has to constantly make sure he's eating veggies and drinking water. Water's the best thing for the body and there's no doctor that's gonna tell you that you've been doing something wrong if you've done that. There's no reason that you're told not to do that for kidney problems

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greatnt249 0

Having one kidney and having CKD are two COMPLETELY different issues. "Water's the best thing for the body" Oh really? If you can't control electrolyte levels, how is drinking copious amounts of water good for you?

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idkweird 0

Why would you assume it's CKD? If he's had kidney failure for a few weeks, I would assume it's ACUTE kidney failure. One of THE most common causes of ARF (Acute renal failure) is dehydration....therefore the best thing would be fluids. Also, Ive never heard "eat more veggies" as a helpful cure. I call fake on this one.

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greatnt249 0

#77, I think the girlfriend was recommending the vegetables and water BEFORE they found out his kidneys were failing; the FML is awkwardly worded.

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Raven3434 0

Just to put it out there, he had complete kidney failure. He is now on dialysis. His kidneys are toast and he needs a transplant. Apparently it was caused by years of high blood pressure. His kidneys were in trouble before we even met. And I had been encouraging him to go to the doctor. He had seen a few doctors, but nobody diagnosed him until his lungs were full of fluid. He can't drink too much fluid because he can't get rid of it without dialysis. He cant eat too many fruits or vegetables because he can't process out the extra phosphate and potassium. He also has to limit his sodium, but that wasn't part of my original post. Just wanted to clarify things. Thanks to all of you out there who offered support. Its been a really hard time.

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blastvortex 3

Wow. They guy's practically at death's door and you've only manage to help him go quicker. YDI. #63 True in SOME cases. Some vegetables are good, but no all of them are. She said she was feeding him spinach salad. That's a big no-no unless, of course, you actually WANT to provoke kidney stones at that point. Also, at the point of kidney failure, even though a patient should be finding ways to prevent building up junk in their system, you're supposed to help them do so by only giving them ONLY as many fluids as they can normally pass through their system to avoid extra storage. He shouldn't be getting more water unless and until they can get his system to recover more from the initial kidney failure. Some recommendations also depend on the severity and consistency of the failure(s) though.

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iBiteRoses 22

She DIDN'T KNOW he had kidney failure! She just thought he was sick

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thepunisher_fml 0

its the thought that counts, right?

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