By kaijen - 09/09/2016 05:11 - United States - Washington
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Unfortunately, not many of you guys are getting my problem. We have been together for 5yrs. I've had a high sex drive our entire relationship. He watches **** almost every night, after I've gone to the bedroom. We HAVE discussed this... MANY times. He says jacking off is just less work and he'd rather use his hand than undress and have to worry about having sex, therefore being "too spent" for sex for sometimes months at a time. I have no problem with **** or ************ in general. It can be a healthy, sometimes needed release. But not when your wife is horny all the time, always doing the experimentations you ask for, and you just don't want to take time out of your Play Station time to actually have some intimacy. He was done with me after he got off after less than 3min and instead of asking for a Round 2, which he KNOWS I'm always down for, he went and hid what he was doing.
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Wow you need to communicate with each other better. That's probably why you haven't had sex in months.
Communication is the most important part of any relationship. How can you hope for a problem to be solved if your other half isn't aware of it in the first place? I'm not criticizing you or your husband, I just want you to remember that healthy conversation about these issues is the healthiest way of resolving them.
You don't think the husband realized there was a problem when they didn't have sex for several months? This is not just a communication problem.
and we have had many, many conversations about it the past 5yrs.
And I could see your point if I haven't talked to him about this for YEARS and tried to compromise and tried the experimentations he wants, tried counseling, etc.
Iwannarock1
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Sounds like you need a FWB.
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Show it anywayYou know it's like you cooked someone dinner and afterwards they order a pizza.
You may not be cool with your partner looking at **** behind your back, but statically speaking they are masturbating behind your back. They are either thinking about you, but sometimes thinking about someone else or looking at ****. Both sexes do it. Maybe your partner finds it easier to spare your feelings on this topic?
Did you read the FML? He was jacking off afterwords.
PANDORUM89
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Why does it matter how a guy gets off? If women required visual stimulation they would be up in arms in a man said they shouldn't do that. Also he is right, why should she be the only to get off more than once, and ik this time she didn't but maybe she faked it and made him think she got off two times? Also it doesn't matter HOW she orgasmed. A lot of women can't get off via penetration and have to use toys are some creativity. It doesn't make the sec any less intimate and if she is keeping score of crap like this she is bound to stay unhappy for a long time. Either communicate what you want in bed or shut your trap, you don't get both.
rldostie
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If my man is watching **** and jerking off, I want in on that. If he's randy enough to jerk off, then he should be good for another round or two. While I always understand everyone needs a little self love, if I'm in the area, why not just have sex? It feels like a wasted opportunity to me. And just because they had sex ONCE and she got off ONCE doesn't mean she wouldn't have been up for more.
This matters if OP isn't having sex cause her husband prefers to jack off to ****.
#41 People don't always want to have sex. Sometimes they just want to come and be done with it. Especially if they've already had sex earlier.
#12 As long as they ate the dinner, why is that a problem?
Fireant_man
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I think getting off on a toy is way worse when using just his hand
How? It's all masturbation. Who cares about either?
mermaidgirle
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I hope you're trolling. Sex is wonderful. Orgasms are wonderful. Hands, toys, it's all good healthy sex and pleasure. How limited your sex life must be.
Masturbating to **** is normal. Maybe next time offer to help ;)
I don't know how long you two been married but you two need to talk, talk, and talk some more until you know each others sexual needs and fantasies. Me and my spouse know each other's needs and we can make each other ****** easily if we want to. You got to open up to each other and see what works best for both of you. So grab that lazy husband of yours by the **** and explain to him what you need.
Remember folks, the FML word of the day is "communication". Use it as often as possible regardless of whether or not your point has already been made.
What are you trying to say #9?! Nvm, I don't want to hear it. Just F off!
cootiequeen4444
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#25 ... it
Open invitation round 2, don't pretend to sleep
harleyivy
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she wasn't pretending to sleep, he just assumed that she fell asleep afterwards.
This sounds like an uncomfortable marriage. Sex is about more than just having an ******. It's bonding with you partner if you do it with love. OP, please talk with your husband if neither of you is happy with your sex life.
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Communication is the most important part of any relationship. How can you hope for a problem to be solved if your other half isn't aware of it in the first place? I'm not criticizing you or your husband, I just want you to remember that healthy conversation about these issues is the healthiest way of resolving them.
Or purposefuly *not* ******* with you